Oh yes, it happened: I turned thirty-five years old at exactly 1:22pm EST yesterday! I thank my parents for deciding that they wanted to be parents! I can’t thank them without thanking God because He is the creator and sustainer of life. On the topic of sustaining, just think of the things you’ve done without problem while others who do the same thing or even play it safe end up suffering seriously for it! It sounds dramatic but I have examples: a local man did a handstand in his family’s swimming pool, fell awkwardly, and is now a quadriplegic. I think of all the times I’ve randomly done handstands or cartwheels while camping and fallen without hurting myself. How often do we cross the street improperly (jaywalk) without paying much attention while others who cross at the right place are mowed down by a careless driver? I don’t want to be morbid but we’re not alive because we’re doing anything special; it’s God.
Sometimes when I look back on my life so far, I feel like I haven’t accomplished much, because there are specific things I want, that society expects us to attain by a certain age. Once you reach the age of thirty-five and are still single, people start thinking something must be wrong. If you’ve ever felt disappointed about dreams that haven’t yet come true, I wrote a post for us—spoiler alert: life doesn’t end because your dreams haven’t come true!
I was overwhelmed by the Facebook messages I received (far more than I usually get), the text messages, and phone calls. My mom always calls and sings Happy Birthday to me and my grandma called too! I was so touched that she remembered. My sister’s in-laws treat me as if I’m the one married to their son—it’s really nice. I also received an unexpected but heartwarming email from my cousin.
For the past three years I’ve decided not to work on my birthday, and it’s the best gift you can give yourself. My plan was to sleep in late and reflect on my life; I ended up waking up early, running errands, having a green smoothie, putting my hair into bantu knots for the first time because I wanted curls, having lunch, and watching a really good two-part Lifeclass (Oprah Winfrey Network) I had recorded of Bishop TD Jakes. It was so good and I have the notes to prove it—definitely fit the bill for the “reflect on your life” aspect of my plans!
I wrestled with my curls before meeting my mom, sister, and nephew for dinner at a seafood restaurant, where I discovered that crab legs are too much work—I prefer my food to be easy access, thank you very much! After dinner I had my favourite ice cream cake for dessert and tried to get enough of my adorable nephew—an impossible task!
There were moments that made my birthday special, like when I randomly checked the time and it was exactly 1:22pm (the time I was born), hearing from the brother that I have a strained relationship with, contact from unexpected people, and a surprise gift from my sister and nephew.
I have no idea what my 35th year will bring but I’m looking forward to it being the best year yet.
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