It’s great to see proof that my hair grows but I wish undergrowth could accumulate under the scalp and just pop up when it’s time to apply fresh relaxer! My hair only maintains that “freshly relaxed” look for a week or two before it starts looking a bit unruly thanks to new growth and that’s really frustrating.
Hair that doesn’t move when I move
I severely dislike it when I bend my head forward and my relaxed hair stands at about a 45 degree angle from my neck; it just doesn’t look great. I don’t mind if hair that isn’t relaxed doesn’t move; I just expect that relaxed hair will move; after all that’s why I’m applying chemicals to it!
(Ok, fine, relaxed hair moves, but not to the degree I want it to, especially when I bend my head forward!)
Straw-like texture (though this is my fault)
A couple of years ago, I moved from washing my hair every other day, to washing every third day, and now to washing my hair once a week, and my hair is healthier for sure. After I wash my hair I use conditioner which I leave in my hair for five or ten minutes before rinsing out—clearly not enough time, especially because I also use a flat iron on my hair sometimes. For almost a year I was using a deep conditioning treatment which I would leave in my hair for an hour then have to go back into the shower to rinse off, but I got lazy. It’s time to return to that.
Thinning ends and general breakage
This is the saddest of all! I’ve seen forums of women with long relaxed hair so I know it’s attainable, so once again I’m to blame. My relaxed hair grows but when you balance that with breakage and split ends which make trims necessary, I don’t end up progressing in hair length at all! And why can’t I have hair that is as thick at the ends as it is on my scalp? There’s got to be a way to maintain that fullness through the length of the hair. Regular trims help to make the ends even, so I do that.
There are countless hair resources at my disposal so with a little research and some time investment, I’m sure I can love my relaxed hair again. But I have to admit, ending my dependency on the “creamy crack” is mighty tempting…
Your turn (but please, no bashing of people who have made a decision to wear their hair one way or another!):
- How do you wear your hair?
- What’s your best tip for relaxed hair?