Unexpected: how it started

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I may not be the girl I used to be in matters of the heart but the optimism I felt at the end of that blog post remains today, though it has been a journey.

Single and happy

Last November when I shared what had changed between the 31-year-old me who thought marriage was imminent and the current version of me, I was several months into getting to know a young man who we can call Sayo because that’s his name. I deliberately didn’t talk mention him on my blog because Continue reading

Thirty-eight

Happy Birthday Jummy 2017 – Photo by Emmanuel Arowele

What an honour it is to celebrate another year on this earth! I am so thankful to God to be alive, and I’m thankful for my life.

The past year went by so quickly—as they tend to do these days—but it was also a very memorable year. I’m looking forward to the year that starts today because I have some big things planned that I’m praying will come to pass. I’ve spent parts of this past week reflecting on my life to this point and while it’s nice to be able to reflect and look back, as Ayodeji Megbope said in this inspiring King Women episode, the past is the past and you can’t do anything about it. As long as we’re alive our time is better spent looking forward and in my case, not only looking forward and dreaming of what I want in my future but taking action to make those dreams a reality. Continue reading

Thankful: May 2017

We’re almost two weeks into June and I won’t let this month to pass without me sharing what I was thankful for last month.

  1. Predictably, I’m going to start by thanking God for journey mercies to and from Nigeria. My mom and I left Canada at the end of April and we arrived safely back here at the end of May. The flights were great (being fat on a plane, not so much), and I thank God that I’m more confident about flying with every flight I take.

    Getting to Nigeria is one thing, but security when moving around is a serious issue. We travelled from Akure to Ilorin and it was the most frightening part of the trip for me: the driver took risks while driving that I wouldn’t take even if I was driving my enemy. He refused to ask for directions even when he got lost twice—the first time, it wasn’t a case of we were going east instead of west; we literally drove around in a huge circle. At one point we ended up on a heavily eroded dirt road, the forest was on either side of us and no other cars were behind or in front of us for the whole stretch. I later found out that I wasn’t the only one praying that we would get out of there before darkness fell—the road was totally abandoned and God forbid we should run out of gas. After that experience, you’d think the driver would be contrite but no: the next time we got lost, the guy waited until five of us were yelling at him before he would seek direction!

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Thankful: April 2017

How has your April been? Mine seemed to fly by yet a lot happened. The biggest thing is that God brought my mom and I safely to Nigeria; we arrived less than 24 hours ago. It was actually the smoothest experience ever, with several highlights:

  • We had no baggage-related trouble—usually the trouble begins when I pack too much and have to pay extra but this time I decided that I won’t do that. Next, the airport that we left from is very strict about baggage limits: we’re each allowed two 23kg luggages and they’ll usually let us go of the luggage is 23.4kg or below. This time our 24kg luggage went without issue. 
  • We had no carry-on related trouble (last year we were told it was too big and they put it in checked luggage); I planned to buy a smaller carry-on but didn’t and I wasn’t questioned about it once. 
  • Murtala Muhammed International Airport had air conditioning! It wasn’t all over but enough that I missed it once we exited the airport. 
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Thankful: March 2017

Welcome to March 30; just one more day before the first quarter of 2017 is over! Can you believe it?!?? I hope you’re having a good year so far; as for me, I’ve been struggling, but don’t worry: this isn’t a depressing post! Some people are bored by lives that feel empty and meaningless, meanwhile it’s the excess of wonderful relationships that I want to cultivate and things that I want to accomplish that’s causing much of the struggle within me and I’ve decided that it’s a good problem to have, even though right now there isn’t much that I think I’m doing very well. I thank God because I believe that I will find solutions that’ll work for me. The experts rightly say we should focus on one thing at a time and I can see the benefits of that method when I look at all the incomplete projects in my life. It amazes me at times that I’ve found a way to survive in the midst of the chaos but that’s God for you.

This month’s thankful post would have been longer had I written down things as they happened. Instead I was sure I’d remember them all (note to self: you won’t). Please join me in thanking God for the following occurrences this month. Continue reading

Wading backwards through chest-high snow

If you’ve been following along closely, you may recall that I changed the tagline of my blog from Murdering the Yoruba language since 1979 (hehe—I love this tagline so much!) to Ordinary woman pursuing an extraordinary life. It sounds inspirational, right? Based on what you’ve read about me over the years and this new tagline, you’d might expect that in the almost two years that I’ve had this tagline I would have:

  • become more Christ-like
  • conquered obesity
  • become a money-making entrepreneur
  • become less fearful of doing things
  • set up the cozy home of my dreams
  • gotten married
  • had a babytwins (because: I’m no longer 25)
  • conquered my natural hair
  • become a passable cook
  • conquered gossip

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