One of the most frequent conversations I’ve had with women in their late 20s or older who are single and have been for a long time (forever?), centres around the fact that it wasn’t supposed to be like this.
Oh, no, it wasn’t supposed to be like this. Most of us women in our late 20s or older thought we’d be married around 25 years of age and have a child by that quarter of a century mark! Not getting married in most cases wasn’t even a consideration because that’s what happened: you went to school, you graduated, you got a job and somewhere in there, you found time to meet a guy, like him, love him, tolerate his family and get married.
But how wrong we were! In reality, some of us are finishing advanced degrees, trying to establish ourselves in a chosen career, entering the workforce for the first time or trying to figure out what we want to do with our lives. Some of us may have gone through challenging and heartbreaking relationships. Some may have come close to being married before.
One interesting thing though is most of us have looked back at our naive assumptions and realized that having a husband or a child by 23, 24 or 25 really would not have worked because the reality is that we would not have been ready at that age, and we don’t feel ready for this life yet, even right now.
I guess that’s why they say that hindsight is 20/20.
(That doesn’t mean we wouldn’t mind having a boyfriend or husband though.)