Happy New Year! Thank God that we made it to 2018!
Eighteen has always been a special number for me because my birthday falls on the 18th (of June). Because of that, I’m claiming 2018 as my year (but we can share): no more playing, no more passive expectation! This is the only life (on earth) that I get and I owe it to myself to live it BIG, not for bragging rights but because I know that I’ll regret it if I do anything less than this.
I have a long history not following through on my resolutions and the reason I don’t follow through is I want freedom! I like doing what I want when I want to but I recently heard something that resonated with me: Discipline equals freedom. Jocko Willink claims that discipline is the key to the freedom we seek. So if I’m seeking freedom from a 9–5 job then I have to be disciplined in how I spend my time while at work (so that I don’t have to stay late catching up because I was slacking off) and I need to be disciplined in how I use my non-work hours (so I can build a profitable side business that can one day become my new way of life that will free me from a 9–5 job).
When I think of discipline I think of structure, and when I think of structure, I think of schedules and plans. These things weren’t my cup of tea in 2017 (or before) but we’re going to get cozy this year.
I’ve written out a schedule that looks reasonable on paper and I’m going to start executing it this week. The other thing I’ll be doing to make my goals work is reviewing them daily.
I have two kinds of goals this year: the goals I have control over and the ones that I don’t. My biggest goal for the year that I have complete control over is setting up a profitable side business, spending more time reading the bible, and eating food that I cook rather than resorting to takeout. A goal that I have less control over is (when I’ll be) reuniting with my husband.
I also have resolutions that are generic and intangible but so important to my mental health and self-esteem. I’m tired of not liking certain things about myself so I want to STOP:
- being afraid
- being uncertain
- caring what people think about me
- having negative thoughts about others in my head
- making excuses
and be more:
- confident about my decisions
- loving towards everyone
I’ll mess up while trying to be better but with daily review of the person I want to be I know I’ll see improvements over time.