Ok, so less than two weeks later and I reactivated my meetnigerians.com account so I could show a friend some pictures of some guy (I forget why I wanted to show her the pics sha). I decided to leave my profile activated for the weekend and so far I have been disappointed. Big surprise! My opening line for my profile is Are you under 35 years of age? but I guess all the men age 40 and above see that as the red flag being waved to them since those are the only fellows who are feeling me.
I’ve deactivated the account again.
While trying to find new dating sites to join, I typed blacksingles.com into my browser. Before joining I did a preliminary search and who should show up but this guy that I never dated as the number one search result! Too funny. You’d think that would make me turn away from the dating site but nope, I joined.
They say it’ll take a few days for my uploaded pictures to show up, and for my written information to show up too. I love the written section: that’s where I tell them I’m not a slender woman but they should still give me a chance, where I beg and plead and even offer to be their sugar momma if only they’ll Please Please date me.
(I’m kidding! I don’t tell them all that until we have our first phone chat! And besides, I’m saving for a house so I can’t be no sugar momma right now!)
Anyways, I’ll keep you posted as usual.
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I finished the book over there on the sidebar, Finesse Mitchell‘s book Your Girlfriends Only Know So Much. It was an ok read. The purpose was to give you a black man’s insight into…black men. It was funny (the guy is a comedian who was on Saturday Night Live) and I learned a few things from the book. A lot of it was common sense (as most of these dating help books are), but sometimes you just need to hear it again before it sinks in. If your local library has the book, pick it up. It’s less than 200 pages and even if the dating advice isn’t helpful, I guarantee you will laugh.
Some things I liked about the book:
The fun quiz to do to determine whether you’re ready to date
For those people who want a new man without doing a postmortem on their past relationships, this quiz tries to be an eye opener.
It reinforced the need for women to have a list and know what they want
Of course, it’s important to keep the list short and limit it to your non-negotiable qualities, rather than specifying every last detail about your dream man (after all, the man on your list is a dream man so he doesn’t actually exist!). A lot of books tell you to toss out your list, or be open to anyone and everything but he says it’s fine to have your list, just don’t live and die by it. I liked that.
Relationship advice from men
The last chapter of the book shared stories from men who had been married anywhere from a year to 30 years and each man said how they proposed (in most cases) and then gave advice on how to make a relationship work. A lot of the same things, like being a confident woman, or not putting up with a man’s shi!t came up. I’m a sucker for “how we met” stories so I ate them up!
Tell me, what book have you read lately or heard of that I should get my hands on?
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