Looking forward

Guess what?

2014 is coming, and this girl has goals aplenty! I’ll be exactly 34.5 years old tomorrow—needless to say I don’t have time to dilly-dally, nor do I want to anymore. I don’t know how many years I’ve been alotted and there are a ton of things I want to accomplish so I must get going. I was listening to Steve Harris‘s Get Started Get Hungry podcast yesterday (link) and because I’m an inspiration junkie it was just what I needed. There were some great nuggets in there, things we’ve heard before but forget in the busyness of life. Finding ways to not forget these nuggets will be an important part of 2014, so part of my game plan is to post sticky notes on my mirrors, tape them to my car’s dashboard, and attach them to my laptop. 2014 cannot be like the previous years—it must be incredible.

I was on twitter yesterday, and Gbemisoke was tweeting in response to women who say things like “All the good ones are gone!” when it comes to men (or at least that’s my interpretation of the tweets I saw going by!).


As I’ve gotten older I’ve worried that all the good men are gone, or that the few left in my age range will want women who are five to ten years younger than I am. But God is good and I know that there is most definitely a guy out there for me, one who will be exactly what I need in all the areas that matter.

Does anyone remember the blogger 30+? She was one of the older, single bloggers several years ago and before she stopped blogging I remember one of her last posts was about how God had brought a great guy who was exactly what she needed into her life. She had dealt with doubts and worries and of course comments from people who, upon finding out that she was about to be married, were sure the guy must have been previously married or had children from a previous relationship, or that there must be something “wrong” with him, but that wasn’t the case. When it’s time (according to God), it’s time! I hadn’t thought about Mrs. 30+ in a while but I’m so thankful that my memory was jogged by Gbemisoke’s tweets. It only takes one guy to turn a Ms. to a Mrs.!

In addition to finding a good man this coming year, I want to look and feel physically the best I ever have. This means embracing my frenemy, exercise, and its bestie, healthy food (Worship and Swag has a challenge to deal with that, by the way!). I’m also planning to build a business! I don’t have a clear idea what the business will look like, but I have faith that as I keep pushing forward, things will become clearer. I intend to learn from those who’ve done it and since I want to build an online-based business, it will be important to network. Networking will be a huge component of my interactions this year. There are so many amazing people out there who’ve inspired me and I’d like to build meaningful relationships with them.

Speaking of networking, you should too! If you read blogs, I challenge you this coming year to up your commenting game and comment on more blogs—leave meaningful comments on blog posts that resonate with you; if a blogger is seeking input or insight that you have, share it freely! If you know someone who can help someone, connect them! It’s so easy to skim blog posts but make an effort to actually respond or react to posts and I believe you’ll bless the blogger and others with your comments. And it just may be the start of a new collaboration or opportunity that you weren’t even searching for, or equally awesome, the start of a beautiful friendship.

Here’s to making 2014 our best year yet! I’ll be focusing on business, fitness, and finding love—what about you?

What do you want to accomplish in 2014?

16 thoughts on “Looking forward

    • Thank you as always for your support, Aloted! I’m sure your list is in your head, just waiting to be recorded somewhere!

  1. Jummy, you’re an amazing person. Kick fear and doubt to the curb; a double-minded person receives no blessing, sis. After being hurt and deceived so many times by guys I shut myself up. But guess what? It only ended up causing me more hurt. Trust is something we mustn’t lose just because some jerks mess up. Remember, when you’re entrusting something valuable to another person you’re taking risks. No matter what that thing is!

    Just trust in Him and be not weary in well-doing for in due season you SHALL reap if you faint not. Hurray for the challenge as well!! We’re starting the new year with the Lord’s anointing, yo! :)

    • Speaking of amazing people—Hi Margaret! Thank YOU for your support on my blog and on my Facebook page—I really appreciate it. I’ve also been blessed by your writing, so keep it up!

      I say a huge amen to all you’ve written…thank you!

  2. I honestly don’t understand why someone who is clearly as amazing as you are is still single!!! You’re an amazing person and I’m hoping and praying with you that 2014 is the year that you meet ‘him’.
    Congrats on successfully hosting another year of the Nigerian Blog Awards btw…well done!
    I’ll have to make networking one of my goals for next year too…I don’t read or even comment on as many blogs as I’d like and there are so many amazing blogs out there.

    • Young Naija Woman you’re really sweet! Thank you…reading your comment was such a self esteem boost!

      All the best to you in 2014 with your goals…be blessed!

  3. 2014 is your year! We will be chopping jollof rice at your wedding soon and very soon. I totally agree with the networking with other bloggers. I have had a great time networking with bloggers and increasing my social network. Blogging is amazing!

    • Amen, Amy…I’ve totally claimed it and I’m going to do everything in my power to start the year off on the right foot.

      You know, I did notice that you have a great network of mom blogger friends, and how you manage to blog so regularly despite your very busy schedule is very inspiring.

      Merry Christmas to you and best wishes for a great 2014!

  4. Networking is great, but I’ve had two not-so-great experiences at blog conferences. They’re great to meet brands, but the two I’ve been to were mostly filled with newbies, so I thought it was a bit of a waste of time (other than meeting PR companies (most of which already know me) and brands).

    • Aww, thanks Jennifer! I hope we get to meet one day. I’m not always postive, but I do make an effort to banish those less than positive moments by thanking God for my many blessings.

      Merry Christmas—I am wishing you a 2014 that eclipses the past few years for you! Believe it can happen!

  5. I remember reading that post from 30+. I was in my 20`s when I read her blog. I am now a 30+ myself . God is faithful. I have heard all sorts of rude and silly comments from people. I got unsolicited match making attempts where the only thing we had in common was that we were single. I ignore these rude comments. For example, some one even said I might end up with some old baba. I am now engaged and i never imagined I d be 2 years older than him and we have the same purpose. I prayed that my husband would have a similar purpose or should be supportive of my purpose. Do not lose hope and be true to thine self. There is a man that we love you for you. With God all things are possible.

    • Hi Condi!

      First off: congratulations on your upcoming nuptials!!

      Thank you for your thoughtful and encouraging comment. It’s by sharing our stories that we help those going through a similar or challenging time realize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and sometimes it also confirms that our thoughts are not so crazy or out there. The rude comments can be hard to deal with sometimes but let’s just thank God that our destinies aren’t in their hands but in God’s!

      Wishing you a wonderful marriage and happiness always.

  6. Your consistency is FabMazing!(Fabulous and Amazing)!
    And you’re right, I tend to skim through blog posts nowadays, telling myself I’ll be right back to comment but I never do!
    2014 is a good year and I’m trusting God that all will be well!
    Oh and may the good man find you this 2014(Amen)

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