Many women are talking about “going natural” with regard to their hair, so not using chemical relaxers or texturizers in their hair. Some choose to wear their hair out, others keep their natural hair in braids or twists or some other style, while some mix it up. There are a lot of opinions out there about going natural, but that’s not what this is about.
I’ve been relaxing my hair for almost 15 years now, though in the last five months I’ve left more and more time between relaxing my hair due my Nigeria trip and then because my schedule and my hair dresser’s were not compatible: I relaxed my hair in early October, then at the end of December, and I’m schduled to relax it tomorrow, for the first time this year.
I’ve written about relaxing my hair before, about how I always get my scalp burned. I found a new salon near my parents’ place, and when I met with the owner, I let her know that in the past I’ve gotten my scalp burned. She said that won’t happen to me because she feels many hair dressers leave the relaxer on too long. She took the relaxer off sooner than I’m used to, but the end result was fine (and only the edges burned because I had just bathed before coming in…when will I learn?). By my December appointment I hadn’t relaxed my hair in 12 weeks and I told her. She said it would be no problem.
She styled my hair as usual and it looked fabulous. A few days later my roots didn’t look so great and after I washed it I realized that my roots didn’t look relaxed once I let my hair air dry. My mom and sister commented on it and at first I wasn’t going to say anything. But then my sister went to my old hairstylist and came back singing her praises, and that made me resent that I was paying more at this new place and wasn’t satisfied. So about two weeks after my December hair appointment, I called the hairstylist and told her that my hair wasn’t relaxed all the way through. She asked what I would like to do: come in and have her fix it or wait until my next appointment. My hair is pretty fragile so the thought of putting more relaxer in it so soon sounded like a bad idea so I said I’d wait until my next appointment.
When it was time to make tomorrow’s appointment, I called her and reminded her that I had called a couple of months ago about my hair. I asked if she remembered my call and she did, but now she said that when your hair is freshly relaxed it shouldn’t actually be straight at the roots, that it’s the hair dryer and flat iron that make the hair flat. This is the first time I’ve heard this so I’m not sure: is it true? When she’s relaxed my hair before it’s been pretty straight at the root so I feel like the December appointment was just a mistake.
Anyway, my plan is to go in tomorrow and when she’s ready to take off the relaxer I’ll ask if she can leave it in a bit longer than she likes to or test to see if it’s been fully relaxed. I have to admit I’m curious to see how she’ll treat me because customer service is an area where every salon I’ve gone to slacks in. If she says that she may not have left the relaxer in long enough last time, or if after finishing my hair she asks if I’m happy with it, that would be great. And of course if she gives me a discount for this appointment because last time’s wasn’t to my standards, that would be even better. Otherwise, I may have to see if there are other good salons in the city worth checking out.
Let me end with two polls: