Happy New Year! Please let me know what my penalty is for sending my wishes so late. Although they’re late, they come from the best place: I hope that your 2015 ended on an uplifting note and that those great feelings have continued into this lovely new year they call 2016.
I freely admit that I’m a New Year junkie–I love fresh starts–but this year I’m off to a slow start. I’ve found myself unmotivated, procrastinating, and fighting self-doubt. These may be un-Nigerian emotions to express (hehe) but please indulge me.
I ended the year by damaging my car (but not my passenger, any other humans or vehicles, or myself thank God), my laptop bit the dust, meaning I’ve lost temporary (I hope) access to four plus years of graphics and many programs that I use regularly, but my laptop’s eight-year-old predecessor (which I had looked at disdainfully for over four years) has proven its worth as evidenced by this blog post I’ve been able to write. My body is trying to trick me into making sugar a regular part of my diet once again so I’ve been having…fun (hah!) nipping that habit in the bud once more. And what does your mind do when you’re feeling less than awesome? It reminds you of your other failings, like that fact that you haven’t a)learned how to style your own natural hair, b)put away your Christmas decorations, and c) built your business, just to make you feel worse!
Self pity is not a good look on me or you! I’m saying no to being dragged down and I’m turning this slow start around by taking action on what I need to do. No more waiting to get a new laptop battery (or laptop)–the blog must go on! No more waiting to be an expert at everything before launching a business–people can benefit from what I know now. No more eating sugary snacks–well, maybe just a few more sugary snacks (I know, please don’t judge me).
If your 2016 started like mine, I’m here to remind you that it’s (only) January 12. And it’s a Leap Year, so we have an extra day, meaning there are 354 days left for us to do amazing things. Don’t dwell on the days that have passed; focus on making the most of the days to come–cheesy, perhaps, but totally the way to get out of this funk. Are you with me?
Now that that’s over with, I’d love to share, for the first time on this blog, an annual survey that I have done every year since 2004. Let me know if you learn something new from my survey responses!
01. What did you do in 2015 that you’d never done before?
- Get in a car accident!
- Publish an ebook!
- Get listed on Amazon as editor and illustrator of another ebook–thank you, Margaret!
02. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I’m not sure that I made specific resolutions (though earlier in the year I had weekly to dos), but it’s probably safe to say that I didn’t quite keep those resolutions (insert embarrassed emoji)!
03. Did anyone close to you give birth?
No immediate family members gave birth, but two friends had adorable babies (there’s no other kind, is there?).
04. Did anyone close to you die?
My Uncle, in September.
05. What countries did you visit?
The USA, once.
06. What would you like to have in 2016 that you lacked in 2015?
A loving fiancé (or almost-fiancé) and a profitable business.
07. What dates from 2015 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
No dates stand out and that could be a good thing.
08. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
- Losing 15lbs.
- Starting a mastermind.
- Publishing that ebook (only because of all the mental anguish and self-worth issues involved!).
09. What was your biggest failure?
Not launching a business.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Nothing memorable, so I thank God for that!
11. What was the best thing you bought?
A new phone!
12. Whose behaviour merited celebration?
My mother, for her strength despite health challenges. My love for that woman is not measurable–I’ll pretend I’m not tearing up as I write this.
13. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?
Oh yes; see answer to #23.
14.Where did most of your money go?
Mortgage, car payments, and penalties for filing my taxes late (won’t do that again!).
15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Seeing my nephew again after the five months he spent in Nigeria.
16. What song will always remind you of 2015?
Thinking out Loud by Ed Sheeran or Hello by Adele.
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
- happier or sadder?
- thinner or fatter?
- richer or poorer?
Poorer (see #14).
18. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Exercising, taking action on business-related tasks, making new friends who are where I want to be in life.
19. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Procrastinating, doubting myself, eating sweets.
20. How did you spend Christmas?
With my entire immediate family and my brother’s girlfriend. It was a lovely Christmas.
21. Did you fall in love in 2015?
22. What was your favourite TV program?
Married At First Sight.
23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
No–I don’t believe in hating people, though sometimes I have to remind myself of this at my workplace!
24. What was the best book you read?
Joyce Meyer’s Change Your Words, Change Your Life.
25. Who was your greatest musical discovery?
Joe, who isn’t actually a new artist, but he put himself back on the map with his rendition of Adele’s Hello.
26. What did you want and get?
That new phone!
27. What did you want and not get?
The gold standard of laptops; also see #06.
28. What was your favourite film of 2015?
I didn’t go to the movie theatre in 2015 and I don’t think I watched any new movies.
29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 36 and I went for dinner with my mom, sister, and nephew. I also went out for dinner with my friends.
30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
- Launching a location-independent business.
- Falling in love with a man who gets me (and whose life I add value to), and making plans for our future.
31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2015?
Low-key and uninspired. Also: too much black.
32. What kept you sane?
- God’s grace–I’m so glad that I can go to God with absolutely anything; He is so faithful.
- My father’s encouragement with business and life stuff.
33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
What a waste of time–I prefer to fancy real men.
34. What political issue stirred you the most?
Though I don’t get excited about politics, I did pay mild attention to Canada’s national elections.
35. Who did you miss?
No specific person, but rather the feeling of having a bestie.
36. Who was the best new person you met?
It’s too soon to tell.
37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2015
There’s no replacement for taking action: you can read and have as much knowledge in your head as you want, but only those who take action on that knowledge make anything of themselves.
38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
From Chris Tomlin’s Good Father:
You’re a Good, Good Father
It’s who you are, it’s who you are, it’s who you are
And I’m loved by you
It’s who I am, it’s who I am, it’s who I am
Cause you are perfect in all of your ways
You are perfect in all of your ways
You are perfect in all of your ways to us
Remembering that God is a good God and His ways are perfect (even when they don’t make sense to me) helps me through challenging times and thoughts.
How are you going to have an amazing 2016?
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