►Lovergirl
Thank for your comment. I agree that statistically, my chances of finding a boyfriend/husband at the age of 30 are likely less than when I was 24 due to a number of things, such as the fact that guys my age might be looking for wives who are in the 24/25 range, or slightly older (but not as old as 30).

The way I interpreted the excerpt from the book was that even though the stats say that I’ll have a harder time finding a husband, if a husband is what I truly want, I shouldn’t throw my hands up in despair and say “Well, the statistics say I can’t find a man so that is that” and do nothing about it. I might have to work harder than my 24 year old counterpart to get the desired result. Or, when I’m in a social gathering and I see guys my age, I shouldn’t say “Well, the statistics say that most of these guys will only be interested in girls who are 24/25 so I won’t bother being friendly or allow myself to be introduced to them.” Instead, though I am normally shy in such situations, I might have to make more of an effort. Or, I may have to ask friends and family members to introduce me to guys they know are looking for a girlfriend/wife, or try online dating instead of expecting things to happen “naturally”.

In your example, I agree that the odds are higher that where you live, you’ll meet a guy who has HIV/AIDS, but that doesn’t mean that there is no chance of you meeting a guy who doesn’t have either disease. You may just have to look for a longer time than you would have to elsewhere.

Statistics are helpful as they can let us know if we’ll have to do something extra or out of the ordinary to “beat the odds”. Human beings do things that are against the odds or the stats relating to our race, age, education level all the time.

Thanks girl!

Hmm, I'll wait and rent the movie then.

And yes, I've got so much to work on in the meantime so I'll focus on that and let the part I can't control take care of itself.

►Tigeress

Thanks girl! My bday is in June…it's really coming up a bit faster than I thought it would!

You talk true with your refusal to settle. We will not have to even think of settling in Jesus' name!

►jabez

*high five* girl!

►Rita

Thank you very much…I appreciate your comment. I have shed my tears through the course of the journey…it is well.

►olufunke

Thank you for your comment. I know you get me 100% on this matter so that makes me happy.

Thank you for the encouragement, faith and belief. I appreciate it!

►Adaeze

Thanks for the encouraging words! I know I'll falter and lose hope but I hope I remember to come here and re-read the comments of lovely blogvillians and remember to keep hope.

►femi B

lol I know you were trying to make a serious point but you do make me laugh! I haven't waited this long to enjoy the benefits of being a heterosexual female to start batting for the other team jare!

I have decided to not believe that all the good men are gone. It may be harder to find the good ones but there are enough of them out there that we who seek them can find them. And we only need one good one.

►Lady A

Thanks for the advice! Waiting isn't easy but if I want the best out there, it's worth it. Thanks for stopping by!

►naijagirl

It's very sad when you see someone let the fear of being alone stop them from breaking free of an unhealthy relationship. Better to be alone and sad sometimes, than be with someone and be sad/depressed/abused most of the time.

Ok, that episode of House is scary and illustrates your point beautifully: I stand by my declaration that nobody should want a person who doesn't want them. We will never have to beg, guilt or trick someone to staying with us in Jesus' name!

►Joicee

Thanks for your encouraging words! I believe too…in fact I believe there is more than one person with whom we can each live our happy ever afters with…waiting is a pain though!

So what is the point even checking in on those…

I believe there is a man for every woman and a woman for every man….nuff said

I concur with the male author; I have met with people who stay in messed up relationships all becase they cant afford to stay alone….what?

I watched an episode of HOUSE MD where a patient decided to donate her organ to her friend even though the partner was planning on breaking up with her. She believes the partner will be indebted to her and wont break up with her.

Now i wonder that if there are lack of men and the few ones that are available are busy chasing these half men half women. what happens to the numerous straight girls……

I suggest more women should become lesbians so the number evens out. I hope i made sense.

So happy to see you have full faith in yourself, your worth and your life. Good things come to those who wait and that is the truth no matter what statistics say!Waiting just means you get more and more wiser and more guaranteed to not make any mistakes. I've always thought that things happen when you least expect it too. Wishing you the very best.

I really fell you…………Torn between facing facts, believing in yourself, in your dreams….., trying to keep faith that there would be a silver lining up the sky somewhere FOR ME, and then listening to people's comments ( mostly out of their concern for you) about what you should do, how you should think, and no matter how u wanna ignore/curse statistics…………you really know what realities face you.

and waiting is not funny ( no matter how we all try to console you )

In all this , what can we say………….'the righteous will live by faith!

I love the part………'its your life, how dare you not have faith in it!'

GNG, it's your life, its going to be a beautiful one, we will all send you our best wishes for your wedding, here on this blog………..very soon.

Go girl!