Single and in your late 20s or older? I bet someone has suggested that you try online dating. You know it’s getting serious when your parents suggest online dating too! I remember the times where my talking online to strangers (on forums) was not something my parents were at all comfortable with.
For the past few years I have joined dating websites on and off. I put up a picture that is flattering and true representation of what I look like at the time (very important to do if you’re plus sized), write a profile that reflects me accurately and tells others what I am looking for, and I wait.
One dating site I’ve tried is geared toward meeting Nigerians. In that profile I selected that I am seeking a (Nigerian) guy who is between the ages of 29 and 35 who lives in Canada. I don’t think I have been contacted by a single guy under the age of 40 who lives in North America, talk less Canada.
It got to the point that I got sick of sending apologetic messages to 40-something and 50-something year old men so I added it to my profile in bold that I am seeking men within a particular age range, and I won’t respond to men who are outside of the range. Do you think that reduced the number of men over 40 messaging me? Not at all! At least I can delete their messages without guilt now…they were warned.
So this makes me wonder: do people read profiles anymore, or do they just see a (flattering?) picture and decide to contact the person? Is it worth taking the time to craft a profile, only to have a guy message me and ask a question that is answered in my profile that would have taken him 45 seconds to read? Do I want the guy who is so impatient that he can’t take the time to thoughtfully consider someone’s profile as a boyfriend?
Another thing I noticed is that not many men take the time to fill out their profile. They fill in the bare minimium – a nickname, their age, the age range of the women they are seeking but questions such as what qualities they are looking for go unanswered, as do sections on what they enjoy doing, what they look for in a partner, and things like that. Many don’t bother to proofread either, which make their profiles seem like they were put together by someone who doesn’t really care about making a good impression and pays no attention to detail. Can this guy metapmorphize into a suitable mate or would that just be wishful thinking?
Am I the online trying online dating without success? What frustrations have you run into?