Questions for the unfulfilled

First off, Happy Birthday to Maggielola, the awesome woman behind Worship and Swag! May God continue to bless her hustle and her life as she shares her message with the world.

My birthday is less than a week away, and there’s nothing like an upcoming birthday to trigger introspection. Around this time for the past few years, I crave alone time to spend thinking about my life. I mostly think about how I’m not where I thought I would be by this age, and to be honest I get frustrated and upset about it. I know that beating myself up mentally won’t change things, so I shut down the pity party as soon as it begins.

The questions I’ve been asking myself are: Continue reading

Thankful: May 2015

Another month is overrrrr, my friends! I hope it was a good one for you. As I mentioned in the combined monthly newsletter for March and April (if you didn’t get it, what are you waiting for—sign up!) sent last week (hides face), the past two months have been lazy for me. I finished off the month on a more productive note by sorting through the clothing that had littered my bedroom floor for longer than I care to admit.

No month would be complete around here without a review of the things I’m thankful for so here we go!

  1. We celebrated Mother’s Day earlier this month and I’m thankful for the incredible woman that I get to call mom. She’s caring and she always has our best interests at heart. The funny thing is Continue reading

My thoughts on promoting your blog on someone else’s blog

If you’re a blogger or if you read blogs, you may have seen someone promoting their blog, business, or event in the comments of your blog or another blogger’s blog. Let’s go through some of the ways this is done.

The Drive-by

This is the person who is so intent on advertising their blog, business, or event that they don’t try to hide it. Imagine writing a post about the loss of a friendship, then checking the comments only to read “Think Pink party on July 6! Tickets only ₦1,200. RSVP at http://thinkpinkparty.com.” It’s spammy, not exactly the response you were expecting, and in about 99% of the cases the person is a true drive-by: you’ve never received a comment from them before, nor will you again. Continue reading

Talking to single friends about being single

I’ll be honest: waiting for the love of your life to show up (which really means online dating, or going through the process of getting to know someone who seems promising) gets frustrating, and it can be lonely too. The length of the wait is emphasized as people five, ten, or more years younger than you get married and have children, when people seem to effortlessly meet someone and transition to marriage and children, or when people marry, divorce, and remarry as you wait (not that going through a divorce is a picnic!). Being the only single person in a group of friends sometimes feels like you’re the elephant in the room, especially when your friends know that you want to get married (does anyone remember the dinner party scene from the movie Bridget Jones’ Diary?). Your friends may be hesitant to ask about that aspect of your life because … Continue reading

Six months since my last relaxer: I think I’m going natural!

from-relaxed-to-naturalI last relaxed my hair six months ago, on November 6, 2014. I hadn’t planned for that to be my last relaxer but as time went on, my frustrations about relaxing my hair flared up, as they always do. Then I discovered the blogs of some Nigerian women rocking natural hair and I got inspired…and developed a serious case of hair envy! Three months post-relaxer, I decided to see how long I could go without relaxing my hair. As I mentioned in my hairstory (hair history) post, I’ve relaxed my hair regularly for the past 18 years. Continue reading