Talking to single friends about being single

I’ll be honest: waiting for the love of your life to show up (which really means online dating, or going through the process of getting to know someone who seems promising) gets frustrating, and it can be lonely too. The length of the wait is emphasized as people five, ten, or more years younger than you get married and have children, when people seem to effortlessly meet someone and transition to marriage and children, or when people marry, divorce, and remarry as you wait (not that going through a divorce is a picnic!). Being the only single person in a group of friends sometimes feels like you’re the elephant in the room, especially when your friends know that you want to get married (does anyone remember the dinner party scene from the movie Bridget Jones’ Diary?). Your friends may be hesitant to ask about that aspect of your life because … Continue reading

Six months since my last relaxer: I think I’m going natural!

from-relaxed-to-naturalI last relaxed my hair six months ago, on November 6, 2014. I hadn’t planned for that to be my last relaxer but as time went on, my frustrations about relaxing my hair flared up, as they always do. Then I discovered the blogs of some Nigerian women rocking natural hair and I got inspired…and developed a serious case of hair envy! Three months post-relaxer, I decided to see how long I could go without relaxing my hair. As I mentioned in my hairstory (hair history) post, I’ve relaxed my hair regularly for the past 18 years. Continue reading

Work your quirk!

I was in the kitchen at work last week, washing the cereal bowl I had used and thinking about my pickiness when it comes to washing dishes. Like everyone I wash my own dishes after using them, but unlike them I keep my dishes in the same section of the kitchen that I keep my food. This to ensure that I use dishes that I have washed because people have different ways of washing dishes, some I’m cool with and some I’m not. Is that picky and ridiculous to some? Absolutely, but what hit me last week is that I’m ok with being a germaphobe. Compare this to last year: when a colleague casually asked me why I keep my things separately I was caught off guard because I didn’t think my habits had been noticed, and I was preoccupied about how weird she must think I am. Continue reading

Thankful: April 2015

This the first month that I can say the winter weather is finally behind us—I’m so thankful for this! God brought many other reasons to be thankful in April; read on to find out what I’m talking about.

  1. April 6 is a special day for our family: two years ago on that date, my sister and her husband got married, and one year ago on that date my nephew was born—a child is a pretty great first wedding anniversary gift, if you ask me! ;)
  2. I’m thankful for health: on Easter Monday I went to the hospital and when I was released several hours later it was with Continue reading

Incident with a neigbour

I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. —Romans 7:15

Life would be easier if becoming a Christian included surgical removal of my “mean thoughts” and “unkindness” parts! Sometimes I’m so fixated on what’s “fair” that I forget to be kind, generous or gracious. Instead I’m petty: if a colleague leaves a dirty cup in the sink and forgets about it, I won’t wash it because in my mind they put it there so they should wash it, but if I’m already washing a couple of things how much extra time does it take to wash a cup?

My Christian walk has been feeling more real over the past seven months. I see areas in my life that need improvement. Behaviour that I wouldn’t have thought twice about (like the pettiness above) feels wrong. I’m less inclined to judge others or tell them what to do. I’m slowly learning to keep quiet unless doing so would harm someone (this is hard, especially at work!). Continue reading

Thankful: March 2015

It’s the last Thursday of the month and you know what that means: time for a thankful post! This month was light on blog posts, but not on things to be thankful for. I’m thankful that spring is finally here, at least on the calendar! You probably wouldn’t be able to tell if you base it on the temperature (10 degrees below zero, Celcius!). During the day it warms up enough to melt some of the snow that has built up so I am thankful for that. And it’s so much brighter out there thanks to the hour we “lost” by turning our clocks forward by one hour (for daylight savings time). Since I’ve been spending more time at my parents’ house during the week, my mom has been spoiling me with her cooking—usually by the time I get home dinner is ready. Cooking is her passion and when people … Continue reading