Thankful: February 2016

February has been my frenemy: it left me unmotivated, in low spirits, with an aching knee that continues to make the most disgusting sound when I go up the stairs, and I was sick for about two weeks (and counting). There has been too much private self pity this month so thank God it’s time for a Thankful Thursday!

No lie: these thankful posts give me life. To develop an attitude of thankfulness I had to learn to focus on small things (because it’s not every month that I’ll be thanking God for losing 100 pounds or getting married!). If you find that you can’t get excited about the small things that happen in your life, accept my challenge: deliberately look for small things that are going well and just as deliberately thank God for it or for them—that’s it! Here’s this month’s thankful list. Continue reading

Making a vision board

Jummy's vision board cover image

If you receive my monthly missives then you’ll soon read some of the back story to this vision board post (and if you’re not subscribed, sign up right here for a “from the heart” message from me, once a month). Ok, let’s talk about making a vision board.

Vision boards apparently gained popularity after the book The Secret was published, about 10 years ago. I haven’t read the book but I heard that it’s about the law of attraction (the idea that you can attract what you want into your life from “the universe” by being what you want since like attracts like). The book also talks about manifesting things in your life by seeing them first before they’re actually there. Vision boards help you see something “for real” before it materializes in your life. I believe in God so instead of putting things out “into the universe”, I’ll use my vision board to communicate what I want God to bring into my life.

Putting a vision board together is easy: grab some magazines or brochures, cut out pictures of things, people, words, phrases, etc., that represent what you want in your life, stick these cutouts on some sort of paper or board, and voila—you have a vision board! There are no rules: if you want to search for images of what you want online, print out the pictures, then cut them out, go for it. Tailor the process to you: you can create a digital vision board on your computer or phone using available software and apps; your vision “board” may look more like a list of goals rather than pictures; the main idea is that you have a place where you can see what you want before they appear in your life.

It took me a few days to find the right images to capture what I wanted on my vision board and once I decided I made the commitment permanent by sticking the images down. After I finished my vision board, I put it on my wall (you can see it in some of my Periscope broadcasts). I also took a picture of it and made it my computer’s screensaver and my phone’s background image so that I see it multiple times each day. Want to see my board? Continue reading

Thankful: January 2016

Welcome to the first of what will be many thankful posts this year (by God’s grace)! I hope you had a good January and had big and small things to thank God for. Here are the things that I’m thankful for this month.

  1. The biggest news in our family is that my sister’s husband arrived in Canada after a relatively smooth immigration process! We thank God for showing himself faithful through the whole process (from the submission of the application to him getting the green light to come), for protecting my sister and nephew as they were in Nigeria this time last year, for bringing them safely back, and now for bringing my sister’s husband here. It’s a long trip that you can’t appreciate until you make the journey yourself. We give God all the glory. I did a Periscope broadcast on the day that my brother-in-law arrived, and he made an appearance on the broadcast; check it out!
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A slow start to the year is better than no start!

GNG HNY 2016

Happy New Year! Please let me know what my penalty is for sending my wishes so late. Although they’re late, they come from the best place: I hope that your 2015 ended on an uplifting note and that those great feelings have continued into this lovely new year they call 2016.

I freely admit that I’m a New Year junkie–I love fresh starts–but this year I’m off to a slow start. I’ve found myself unmotivated, procrastinating, and fighting self-doubt. These may be un-Nigerian emotions to express (hehe) but please indulge me.

I ended the year by damaging my car (but not my passenger, any other humans or vehicles, or myself thank God), my laptop bit the dust, meaning I’ve lost temporary (I hope) access to four plus years of graphics and many programs that I use regularly, but my laptop’s eight-year-old predecessor (which I had looked at disdainfully for over four years) has proven its worth as evidenced by this blog post I’ve been able to write. My body is trying to trick me into making sugar a regular part of my diet once again so I’ve been having…fun (hah!) nipping that habit in the bud once more. And what does your mind do when you’re feeling less than awesome? It reminds you of your other failings, like that fact that you haven’t a)learned how to style your own natural hair, b)put away your Christmas decorations, and c) built your business, just to make you feel worse!

Self pity is not a good look on me or you! I’m saying no to being dragged down and I’m turning this slow start around by taking action on what I need to do. No more waiting to get a new laptop battery (or laptop)–the blog must go on! No more waiting to be an expert at everything before launching a business–people can benefit from what I know now. No more eating sugary snacks–well, maybe just a few more sugary snacks (I know, please don’t judge me).

If your 2016 started like mine, I’m here to remind you that it’s (only) January 12. And it’s a Leap Year, so we have an extra day, meaning there are 354 days left for us to do amazing things. Don’t dwell on the days that have passed; focus on making the most of the days to come–cheesy, perhaps, but totally the way to get out of this funk. Are you with me?

Now that that’s over with, I’d love to share, for the first time on this blog, an annual survey that I have done every year since 2004. Let me know if you learn something new from my survey responses! Continue reading

Thankful: December 2015

Friends I’m thankful that the last Thankful Thursday of 2015 falls on the very last day of the year—isn’t that perfect? It gives me (and you if you’d like!) the opportunity to reflect on all the things that happened this month but more importantly to reflect on the whole year. Here are this month’s thankful points! 2015 was a good year because my family is alive and we all made it to the last day of the year. Things are not perfect: there are ongoing health issues that we’re trusting God to resolve, there was a period of unemployment for one of us, and of course families have their skirmishes, but I give God thanks for preserving us all. Someone in a Facebook group that I’m in lost two family members in a car accident in Nigeria this week, further reminder that each day is a gift. Speaking of car … Continue reading

On greeting people and saying sorry

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Whether or not you’re Nigerian, you may have interacted with an older Nigerian who was not particularly tactful: they told you what they thought regardless of how it might make you feel (I guess older people, regardless of culture, tend to be a bit more plain spoken). I’ve talked about tact among Nigerians before, and a particular incident involving my grandmother’s neighbour and my weight. Generally speaking, Nigerians aren’t shy about Continue reading