My thoughts on promoting your blog on someone else’s blog

If you’re a blogger or if you read blogs, you may have seen someone promoting their blog, business, or event in the comments of your blog or another blogger’s blog. Let’s go through some of the ways this is done.

The Drive-by

This is the person who is so intent on advertising their blog, business, or event that they don’t try to hide it. Imagine writing a post about the loss of a friendship, then checking the comments only to read “Think Pink party on July 6! Tickets only ₦1,200. RSVP at http://thinkpinkparty.com.” It’s spammy, not exactly the response you were expecting, and in about 99% of the cases the person is a true drive-by: you’ve never received a comment from them before, nor will you again. Continue reading

Talking to single friends about being single

I’ll be honest: waiting for the love of your life to show up (which really means online dating, or going through the process of getting to know someone who seems promising) gets frustrating, and it can be lonely too. The length of the wait is emphasized as people five, ten, or more years younger than you get married and have children, when people seem to effortlessly meet someone and transition to marriage and children, or when people marry, divorce, and remarry as you wait (not that going through a divorce is a picnic!). Being the only single person in a group of friends sometimes feels like you’re the elephant in the room, especially when your friends know that you want to get married (does anyone remember the dinner party scene from the movie Bridget Jones’ Diary?). Your friends may be hesitant to ask about that aspect of your life because … Continue reading

Six months since my last relaxer: I think I’m going natural!

from-relaxed-to-naturalI last relaxed my hair six months ago, on November 6, 2014. I hadn’t planned for that to be my last relaxer but as time went on, my frustrations about relaxing my hair flared up, as they always do. Then I discovered the blogs of some Nigerian women rocking natural hair and I got inspired…and developed a serious case of hair envy! Three months post-relaxer, I decided to see how long I could go without relaxing my hair. As I mentioned in my hairstory (hair history) post, I’ve relaxed my hair regularly for the past 18 years. Continue reading

Work your quirk!

I was in the kitchen at work last week, washing the cereal bowl I had used and thinking about my pickiness when it comes to washing dishes. Like everyone I wash my own dishes after using them, but unlike them I keep my dishes in the same section of the kitchen that I keep my food. This to ensure that I use dishes that I have washed because people have different ways of washing dishes, some I’m cool with and some I’m not. Is that picky and ridiculous to some? Absolutely, but what hit me last week is that I’m ok with being a germaphobe. Compare this to last year: when a colleague casually asked me why I keep my things separately I was caught off guard because I didn’t think my habits had been noticed, and I was preoccupied about how weird she must think I am. Continue reading

Thankful: April 2015

This the first month that I can say the winter weather is finally behind us—I’m so thankful for this! God brought many other reasons to be thankful in April; read on to find out what I’m talking about.

  1. April 6 is a special day for our family: two years ago on that date, my sister and her husband got married, and one year ago on that date my nephew was born—a child is a pretty great first wedding anniversary gift, if you ask me! ;)
  2. I’m thankful for health: on Easter Monday I went to the hospital and when I was released several hours later it was with Continue reading