Pre-travel vaccination

Since Nigeria is on the radar for travel this year, I’ve been preparing for the trip in my usual way: checking to make sure my passports are up to date, trying to see if there have been any advances in fooling airport personnel into thinking 23kg worth of belongings only weighs 13kg, and of course loading up on medication and vaccines for the trip. Call me paranoid but I don’t like taking risks and the thought of falling sick and not being able to run to the hospital (or God forbid call an ambulance) is not how I roll. This is not to say that there aren’t excellent hospitals in Nigeria, but when you’re visiting and you’re depending on friends and family to drive you around, if you’re like me you might be hesitant to ask for help unless it’s a life and death issue because you don’t want to … Continue reading

So very thankful

For traveling mercies! No, I’m not in Nigeria but on Monday afternoon I decided to make the four-hour round trip drive to the USA. Alone. It was a bright day when I left but making the drive back at 10pm in the dark, and dealing with what they call highway hypnosis was not funny! God spared my life and I’m truly thankful. Related to the first is not having to pay at the border! I could lie and say I charmed the border guard but I have a theory that men like him are generally easygoing and let people through! If only there was a way to see the face of the border guard before choosing which line to get into; I think I’m very good at gauging which ones will let you through! Money only has value when you spend it, and I keep reminding myself of that as … Continue reading

Part confession, part rant about being single

I was recently reminded that I’m not getting any younger. It’s true: I’ll be 34 in three and a half months, but I was insulted because one thing that infuriates me about some men (not all men) is when they are thwarted, even politely, they always go for the jugular. I’m shocked every time it happens: from the guy who called me unspeakable things four or more years back because I told him I didn’t want to date a man with children (a fact that was clearly stated on my dating profile), to another guy who trashed my character because I told him I did not see a future for us, together, to the random guy last year who chatted me up then told me I was stupid when I told him I wasn’t interested in having coffee with him. I can list more situations where this has happened. I … Continue reading

Thankful in 2013

I can’t believe the last day of February is less than a week away! I don’t know where this year is going but I really don’t want to be left behind…I feel like I’m already out of time to do things. I’m thankful for: Life. I attended the funeral of a family friend a week and a half ago and it’s still unbelievable that he’s gone. We make these wonderful long-range plans, not knowing how many days we have left on earth. Thinking about this is sobering. The health of my family, despite a small scare recently. My job. The future is a bit uncertain at my job, and unexpected layoffs this year have led me to realize that things can change more quickly than I think. I’m thankful that I am still employed. A comfortable shelter to protect me from this terribly cold winter. The means to fulfil my … Continue reading

Long distance wedding planning

Our family has spent 2013 so far trying to figure out how to successfully plan my sister’s upcoming wedding. One of the reasons I was really missing this blog is because I’m sure by now you would have helped us sort out so many things! It’s hard to plan a wedding from a distance, but it’s even harder when you’re not up to date on the trends or requirements for a Yoruba wedding: I have a lot of questions! I could ask family members but I think this online community can also offer a lot of great advice. My parents had a court wedding before my dad left Nigeria for the USA. My mom joined him about a year after he left Nigeria and when they returned to Nigeria they had a traditional marriage and a reception—they didn’t have a white wedding. My sister will be having a traditional and … Continue reading

Good Naija Girl is back!

Welcome back to Good Naija Girl! I missed you (really), and I hope you missed me too (otherwise I need to get a new hobby!). How have you been? Hope your 2013 has been swell so far! Happy Valentine’s Day too…hope you feel the love today from everyone you come across. If you’ve liked my Facebook page (and please, do!), then you’ll know that I’ve been having m-a-j-or issues with my web hosting. These issues started in June of last year when I switched from my host of six years (four years for this blog) to save some money: big mistake! First my site would go offline, with a message that the account had been suspended, then near the end of last year I lost five months of blog posts and your comments!!! Well that is behind me: I have a new reliable host and thanks to Google reader I … Continue reading