Long distance wedding planning

Our family has spent 2013 so far trying to figure out how to successfully plan my sister’s upcoming wedding. One of the reasons I was really missing this blog is because I’m sure by now you would have helped us sort out so many things! It’s hard to plan a wedding from a distance, but it’s even harder when you’re not up to date on the trends or requirements for a Yoruba wedding: I have a lot of questions! I could ask family members but I think this online community can also offer a lot of great advice. My parents had a court wedding before my dad left Nigeria for the USA. My mom joined him about a year after he left Nigeria and when they returned to Nigeria they had a traditional marriage and a reception—they didn’t have a white wedding. My sister will be having a traditional and … Continue reading

Good Naija Girl is back!

Welcome back to Good Naija Girl! I missed you (really), and I hope you missed me too (otherwise I need to get a new hobby!). How have you been? Hope your 2013 has been swell so far! Happy Valentine’s Day too…hope you feel the love today from everyone you come across. If you’ve liked my Facebook page (and please, do!), then you’ll know that I’ve been having m-a-j-or issues with my web hosting. These issues started in June of last year when I switched from my host of six years (four years for this blog) to save some money: big mistake! First my site would go offline, with a message that the account had been suspended, then near the end of last year I lost five months of blog posts and your comments!!! Well that is behind me: I have a new reliable host and thanks to Google reader I … Continue reading

Would you like a Christmas card?

Christmas is just around the corner and I’d like to send Christmas cards to some readers of the blog like I did last year and the year before. Instead of just sending you one card, I’d like to send you two: one addressed to you from me, and one blank card that you can send to a friend! If you hate Christmas cards, I apologize: my plan to send iPads is not yet financially feasible! This offer is only open to the first 25 readers in North America and Europe who qualify. If you’re interested: Sign up for my mailing list by filling out the form below removed because timeline has passed. Don’t worry: you won’t be bombarded with useless information or harassed regularly by email (I prefer to harass in person–hehe!). You can also unsubscribe whenever you want. Leave a comment on this post, letting me know that you … Continue reading

The girl I used to be

I bought an ebook that’s supposed to help me figure out what I want to do online. The first exercise in the book asks readers to think about what friends and family would say they’re known for. This has stumped me for about a week now. I started thinking about the girl I used to be. That girl hardly ever swore, not because she was a goody two shoes who refrained from swearing to act superior to others, but because she didn’t feel the need for it. My parents didn’t swear (they still don’t), and they didn’t allow swearing in the house so it never became my regular way to express anger or frustration (I was a brat so I would slam my door if I was angry!). I was the girl who would say frig once in a blue moon and have people look at me in shock, and … Continue reading


It’s Thanksgiving weekend in Canada and I have plenty to be thankful for! I’m thankful for the long weekend, which means spending more time with my family, especially my dad, who is in town. I thank God for my mother, her boundless energy and enthusiasm for life. I also thank God for preserving her health and for allowing that smile to be on her face even after a tiring week. I am blessed that she hugs me and tells me she loves me every time I see her. I’m thankful for my sister and how loyal she is: she always has my back when it’s me against someone else, no matter what (I can’t say the opposite is true!). I also thank God for her generosity, especially with her time and her willingness to help me when I’m in dire straits. I thank God for friends who listen to me … Continue reading

Love and Learn – Conclusion

I hope you’ve enjoyed the Love and Learn series! There are other shorter tidbits to share, but these are best worked into future entries. Here’s a summary of the lessons I learned from my first serious relationship, which I’ve been sharing with you over the past few weeks. I hope these will be helpful to you. I will put God first because that is the key for everything to work. This means I’ll pray for a partner like I mean it and not just because I’ve been told that I should pray for what I want. Before falling head over heels in love I’ll take new relationships to God and be receptive to any signs that I may receive, even though I don’t think I’m good at seeing these signs. When I’m in a relationship I’ll encourage conversations and actions that show that we prioritize God. I will look for … Continue reading