It’s Thanksgiving weekend in Canada and I have plenty to be thankful for! I’m thankful for the long weekend, which means spending more time with my family, especially my dad, who is in town. I thank God for my mother, her boundless energy and enthusiasm for life. I also thank God for preserving her health and for allowing that smile to be on her face even after a tiring week. I am blessed that she hugs me and tells me she loves me every time I see her. I’m thankful for my sister and how loyal she is: she always has my back when it’s me against someone else, no matter what (I can’t say the opposite is true!). I also thank God for her generosity, especially with her time and her willingness to help me when I’m in dire straits. I thank God for friends who listen to me … Continue reading
I hope you’ve enjoyed the Love and Learn series! There are other shorter tidbits to share, but these are best worked into future entries. Here’s a summary of the lessons I learned from my first serious relationship, which I’ve been sharing with you over the past few weeks. I hope these will be helpful to you. I will put God first because that is the key for everything to work. This means I’ll pray for a partner like I mean it and not just because I’ve been told that I should pray for what I want. Before falling head over heels in love I’ll take new relationships to God and be receptive to any signs that I may receive, even though I don’t think I’m good at seeing these signs. When I’m in a relationship I’ll encourage conversations and actions that show that we prioritize God. I will look for … Continue reading
Edited to add: Sorry that this post came out later than usual. As mentioned on twitter I made a rookie WordPress error: I wrote the entry and set the date and time it was supposed to be posted (Friday, 6:30am EST) and then forgot to hit “publish” to actually schedule it! Are you good at praying that you and your future husband or wife get to meet each other (soon)? I’m not. Or do you routinely seek divine guidance while you’re in a relationship? That’s another area I’m working on. When I look back on things, I’d have to say that I tried, but I did not put God first in my relationship overall. I think many people struggle with this and I hope those of you who have this Love and Learn lesson locked down can help those of us still struggling. Why put God first Christians are commanded … Continue reading
Along with defining what kind of relationship you’re entering into with someone, Today’s quick Love and Learn is that it’s important to be clear about what behaviour you will and won’t engage in in a particular stage of the relationship; I’m talking about intimacy here. You don’t have to have a list of dos and don’ts (or a diagram of your body with “do not touch” signs on off-limit body parts; hehe), but both parties should be clear about what the other person considers permissible at various stages of the relationship. Like you’ve read or heard elsewhere, this discussion should not take place in the middle of an intimate moment: have the conversation when you’re both fully clothed and just hanging out, rather than in the middle of a cuddle session. (Dear God, please send me a cuddler!) When I met my ex face-to-face for the first time in 2010, … Continue reading
Today’s Love and Learn lesson is simple: don’t behave like the girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, or husband until you actually are. The best way to know where you stand is to have a conversation about it with the other person: define the relationship! When someone is serious about a relationship they’ll want to define it clearly because they don’t want to risk losing the person, due, for example, to a misunderstanding about the exclusivity of the relationship. (Men: tell me this is true!). Why define the relationship I mentioned a possible motivation for a man to define the relationship but what about the woman? Speaking for myself, a few of my friends, and maybe you, I know that some women are champs at getting emotionally attached. Oftentimes, with our emotions comes a willingness to act on those emotions and do things for the ones we love are liking more and more … Continue reading
There is much to thank God for: My sister celebrated another year of life and good health two weeks ago. My parents celebrated 36(!!) years of marriage last week. My youngest brother got a good part time job (he’s in his last semester of school). Honestly the boy is too blessed when it comes to getting jobs he applies for. I’ve been asked to be maid of honour in a very special wedding. Of course I said yes. My dear friend came to my rescue with Nigerian Blog Awards wahala. This site has been online consistently for nine days and counting (a relief after all the issues that were going on with the site being down)! The wonderful and thought-provoking comments received on the Love and Learn series—thank you! What are you thankful for?