A thankful August

Despite my lack of thankful posts this month, there have been so many family and friend milestones to give thanks for. My parents celebrated their 34 year wedding anniversary yesterday! They are such a remarkable couple, loved by so many people, and loved most of all by my siblings and I. I have praised them many times on this blog and I know I will always have reasons to be thankful for their loving example to us and for their love for each other. They have been through rough times, but their love and committment to each other is never shaken, and it’s such a great example to see. I wish I had my camera with me last night to snap a picture of the happy couple but I didn’t…my mom just lights up whatever space she occupies and my dad…well the best person on this earth to coax a … Continue reading

Still not doing much Nigerian cooking

I’ve confessed before that I can’t cook Nigerian dishes aside from a few staples. To me, the most important thing to master is various stews, from the basic obe ata (basic pepper stew) to the more complicated ogbono or egusi stew. My mother is not to blame (she tried, oh she tried, and for two decades I resisted her efforts and tactics, including the times she would get angry and tell me that since I didn’t help cook the food I could not have any). I was spoiled too because my father also cooks, so I really didn’t feel I had any reason to hang around the kitchen. Now that I’ve been living on my own for over a year, I think of the delicious foods I used to eat regularly and I’m sad that I can’t recreate them (is this what is referred to as “getting what I deserve”?). … Continue reading

Tourism in Nigeria (and summary of traveling to Nigeria)

I’ve written a bit about some topics related to traveling to Nigeria. If you regularly visit your homeland and don’t wait 14 years between visits like I did when I finally went two years ago, then the info below is not useful. But if you have never been to Nigeria, or you haven’t been in a long time, here are some entries that you might find helpful as you plan your trip. Don’t focus on the entries as much as the COMMENTS. The readers have so many excellent suggestions and helpful info, and I’m sure you’ll learn a lot from them as I did: Vaccinate me Gift ideas Traveling to Nigeria – bathroom “necessities” Traveling to Nigeria – clothing and accessories Flying (within Nigeria) Thankful and Lagos hotel hunting You can also read about my frustrations with the N@ija High Commission if you’re so inclined. But what I wanted to … Continue reading

Just in case

I have challenged myself to blog regularly about things that I am thankful for. We all have something in our lives that we can be thankful for, it’s just a matter of thinking on it. Life can be hard and is very stressful, but as long as you’re on this side of the ground and not below it, I think life is good. Fine, life is good but there are so many challenges, so many things that disappoint us or go wrong, lots of unanswered prayers that cause us to lose hope or overshadow our thankfulness. We all face them. When you see an entry here that is all about thankfulness, don’t think everything in my life is perfect and I’m completely satisfied (in some instances I should be, but I’m a typical flawed human). In many cases I have to think hard before I come up with more than … Continue reading

Weight, dates and confidence

I’m a big girl: not thick, not plump, big. And it affects my dating life. Being a bigger person doesn’t have to affect your dating life, and I’ve seen women my size or bigger who date often or have left the dating world behind for marriage. And on the flip-side, there are many slim, fit, toned ladies who are single and may have gone on fewer dates than I have. So what then is the problem? Many will say that it’s all about confidence. I’m sure most single women have been told that they just need to be more confident and men will approach them because confidence is sexy. But before you can be confident you need to be comfortable with whatever causes you to lack confidence. For me, that’s my weight. My belief is that even if I don’t shed a single ounce, I am worthy of finding love … Continue reading

It was Thursday when I started this…

::First off, thank God that the 2010 Nigerian Blog Awards are over! Hurray! I had a blast running it with happyBBB and tinuo, with lots of generous input from Sting, and I look forward to what the 2011 awards will bring, but for now, I’m glad to have my life back! I can read blog entries again and update my own blogs more regularly. I’ve spent the past two weeks volunteering at a music festival so I can see Drake later tonight, but starting Monday, my evenings will be my own again. I have more to say on the topic of the awards, but I guess I’ll save it for that blog. If you have any comments, and I’m sure some of you do, please leave them here or on the awards blog. ::I’m thankful for the people I’ve met through blogging. My dad told me sometime last year that … Continue reading