What’s your personal style?

I’ve been struggling to write an entry for a few days now. The struggle comes from not knowing which of the following topics to write about first: (more on) blogging, a vulnerable post on searching for love or my reflection on a year since my Nigeria trip. I’m sure I’ll write about all of them sometime, but in the meantime let me write about something completely different: Nigerian women and their stylishness. I’ve said before that no one would guess that I’m Nigerian because I’m not stylish and I break many rules of stylish women everywhere. Let me list them by category: H A I R I wash my hair every other day. I know most don’t but if I don’t my hair smells. I can’t explain it but this is my cross to bear. I go outside with wet hair (or at least damp hair, since I rarely have … Continue reading


This week I’m thankful that a friend of mine (a blogger!) delivered a beautiful baby and both mother and baby are doing well (and father too!). This makes me think of the blogger moms-to-be that we know of (Oluwadee, who actually updated today) and the ones we don’t know of who have either just become pregnant or have been pregnant for a while and won’t share it with blogville until their little one has arrived safe and sound. I am thankful for them and wish them and their little ones good health as their pregnancies progress. I’m also thankful for the expectant mothers who are not yet pregnant but are working on it, because I have learned a lot from them. The journey to having a child is not always so easy for everyone, and the process can really test your faith and your relationships. A couple of years ago … Continue reading

Eight ways to bring more readers to your blog

Write good content. Good content gets read and linked to. Leave great (but genuine) comments on the blogs you like. Link to entries of other bloggers as an effort to share good writing/information on blogville. If someone is doing something great that others can learn from, share this information. The favour will be returned, not necessarily from the person you linked to. Use twitter to announce new entries. I don’t do this often but others do and it seems to be very successful. The best part is that twitter’s 140 character limit means you have to think of a short but catchy headline to advertise the entry. If you are a prolific blogger you may want to be more choosy about which entries you use twitter to announce or people may start ignoring your frequent tweets advertising new entries. If you’re not so anonymous, you can use facebook to announce … Continue reading

It’s never too late to give thanks

I am late with this week’s thankfulness blog but you will have to believe that I had a very good reason. No, I’m not engaged, and we praise God that no member of my family is sick, but between Thursday night and Friday morning, I was somewhere where it would have been impossible to blog, even if I owned a Blackberry, iPhone or other device that makes blogging on your mobile not such a chore. But it’s all over now and I am SO THANKFUL for that! You do not even understand. I take my health for granted like most people do but I think sometimes God reminds us that we are human, and just because we haven’t accomplished x, y or z, it does not mean that we will live to do so. But anyway, enough about that. I’m thankful for my health and for our healthcare system here. … Continue reading

Commenting on blogs

Comments. As bloggers, are there any of you who don’t like receiving them? They confirm that we are being heard by someone, and reinforce our ability to reach out to people because not only are we being heard, we are being connected to and communicated with. Comments mean a lot to me. I think at first, most personal bloggers just want a place to record parts of their life story so they can look back and see how far they’ve come. I’d guess that at the beginning, comments aren’t as important as the satisfaction gleaned from putting something “out there”. But then you hit milestones such as the first comment received (even if you begged a friend to go to your site, read your entry and leave a comment), the first unsolicited comment received (which to me is the first comment that really counts), then a second and third comment, … Continue reading

And I’m thankful for all your comments, too!

I am thankful that one of my best friends reached another birthday in good health this week. I can’t wait to see her, even though I am struggling to decide on a birthday gift (what do you get a married, 29 year old mother of one who doesn’t need anything?). My friend does not believe in God but she is one of those people I mentioned before who lives a life that many Christians could learn from. I am thankful for the support of two of my siblings, who spent a number of hours over two days with me, helping me make a decision. They came with me to different stores, watched me try on something and gave their opinion and made suggestions and in the end I am happy with my selection. We have such a good time together! We have to do more to include our other brother … Continue reading