Where to meet Nigerian men

I haven’t tried any of these places but I’m thinking they might be worth looking into: Church I don’t go to a church that’s known for its Nigerian population (Redeemed is the only one I know of around here) but it’s tempting to look into it. The problem is going to a church to meet men is not an idea I’m comfortable with. My choice of church should be based first and foremost on my beliefs and how likely this church is to meet my spiritual needs rather than the number of men between the ages of 28 and 32, taller than 5’5, with a university education that attend the church. The big city I live in Canada in what is called “the nation’s capital” but it is not the biggest city in the country. Toronto is one of Canada’s largest cities and it’s not a surprise that there is … Continue reading

How the smitten have fallen

(Or, here’s one more for The Men I Never Dated) I have some gist. To give some background, the guy was in the US doing his studies for four years (bachelor’s degree) and has been living in Canada for four months. I asked him one of the first times we talked if he had been in the US on a student’s VISA, to which he said yes. I told him that I didn’t know that while on a student’s VISA to another country he could be in Canada for so long but he said he was in the midst of processing his Canadian papers. Sometimes being inquisitive and liking to know these important things sooner rather than later can work to your advantage (especially if you know someone who’s gone through something sketchy before). There was a reason why I kept wanting to inquire about his status in Canada. Every … Continue reading

Getting to know one another

So I’ve been talking to this guy for a few days now and things seem ok. He’s pretty confident without seeming cocky, he’s funny and seems to get my jokes (a requirement). I am still nervous that a face to face meeting will not go well because there will be no chemistry (on both parts) but what’s the point of worrying, right? I must admit that in the past few days I have not been following the tenets of the latest book on men that I’m reading, Why Men Love Bitches. According to that book, I probably shouldn’t talk with him on the phone for long and not more than once every couple of days. I have broken both rules. I also should not put myself down or say anything that might suggest that I don’t think I’m the best thing out there. I’ve broken that rule too! It is … Continue reading

What’s meant to be will be?

You won’t believe this…or maybe you will. First, let me come clean: I am currently listed on two online dating sites, Meet Nigerians and Afrointroductions. I joined the latter site on January 20 and I joined Meet Nigerians on February 18. I also joined match.com for their seven day trial, and was on that site between February 5 and February 11. My profile is actually still on that site but if I want to do anything I have to actually subscribe (pay). Afrointroductions is full of men in their late 30s, 40s, 50s and (yesterday) 60s who message me thinking, perhaps, that I believe that age is nothing but a number and would be flattered that a man 15 years or more older than me is interested in me. Most guys on MN who have shown interest are the right age but live around the world or something. Or they … Continue reading

The online dating profile

When it comes to online dating, I think I am stricter than I would be with someone in person. Schichere mentioned that she cannot abide guys who shell/tabon when talking and I feel the same way about written English. I know my own English is not always on point but I try. So when it comes to online dating profiles I’m horrified when I read a profile written by a man (not elementary school boy) who claims to have a Bachelors abi Masters degree and cannot write coherently. This is your first impression to the woman of your dreams and you can’t be bothered to use capital letters or proper punctuation? That drives me mad. If a profile is full of spelling mistakes, I’m going to draw the conclusion that the author of the profile either: doesn’t know how to spell (and if the misspelled words are simple ones, I’ll … Continue reading

What we can learn from a matchmaker

I am currently reading the book on the left, Secrets of a Fix-Up Fanatic: How to Meet and Marry Your Match (yes, another library loan) and you have to read it. Ok, maybe you don’t have to but it sure has some good tips on things you should make sure you have in order before you go out looking for your man. Let’s just say I read it and decided that I have a lot of work to do. But before you rage at the author, she does say that you don’t have to have everything in order before you put yourself out there, but it sure does make you realize that if you think having a man will make things in your life that you don’t like better, you’re probably wrong. A man will not fix the fact that you’re dissatisfied with the city/country you live in, or your … Continue reading