Comments on: Parents don’t always know what’s best for (the adult) you

By: ShonaVixen

ShonaVixen — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:17:56 +0000

well i'm definitely a number 2 person. I have made decisions that my parents thought were not right, but they ended up accepting it. When i made a move to London from home, neither wanted me to but now the situation in Zimbabwe has deteriorated and well, they did appreciate my 'stubborness'..lol..am enjoying the blog

By: Adaora

Adaora — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 02:19:32 +0000

Quick bit to add: The next time they want to molly coddle and control you and you want to do any particular thing independently, say this; You've spent X number of years teaching me, and filling me with values you hope I've retained. Don't you think it's time I got the chance to put it all to good use?

By: Adaora

Adaora — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 02:17:19 +0000

Feel better GNG!!

I fall into Parental approval is nice, but I do my own thing too"

It is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY that everyone learn to make their own decisions in life. Parents need to learn to let go. You're 'baby' isn't going to live with you forever, and how can you call yourself a proper adult when you're running to mom and dad to ask what they would do. Who cares what they would do. Ask for advice when you want it, but learn to rely on yourself. Self-reliance is key. Parents have to become a shoulder to lean on when you need it, but you've got to stand on your own two feet. That's what I believe. Sometimes it's hard to get my parents to hear my opinion on matter – they tend to be older so think I don't have as much 'life experience' etc – but I do it, and I do it shamelessly. I tell it like it is and I make no appologies for it. And deep down, they respect that, and they respect me for it.

By: goodnaijagirl

goodnaijagirl — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 09:36:00 +0000

@sting - I knew you'd back me on the mother thing. Don't you hate it when moms are right about the guys you date (dads rarely have a strong opinion...or maybe they do, and they let the mom share it)? @ms.emotions - thanks! @Backtonaija - hehe, thanks! Hopefully I'll be able to claim one day that I totally rock Yoruba, and pidgin too! @solomonsydelle - I'm not trying to offend o; just trying to let them know that once they reach adulthood, it's ok to move to another category ;) @Tears - good luck on blogville idol! I'm off to go check out your blog :)

By: Tears

Tears — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 08:32:06 +0000

Nice look!!! All best though…hope you do go far nevertheless…am also a contestant!!

Good Luck

~kisses~

By: solomonsydelle

solomonsydelle — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 07:30:54 +0000

Eh, careful to not offend those that truly believe in option 1 oh, you know they are out there. lol! I like the new look and best of luck with Blogville Idol, you'll do **ahem, ahem** just fine! lol!!!!! NIGERIAN CURIOSITY IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN I ONLY HAD ONE...

By: Backtonaija

Backtonaija — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 06:40:18 +0000

I like your masthead and love your tagline "murdering the yoruba language since 1979" Nice!

By: ms.emotions

ms.emotions — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 05:34:29 +0000

hmmmm, true word oooo

By: sting

sting — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 04:30:38 +0000

I just finished reading the post. I didn't see the rest of it initially. I love how u crossed out parents and wrote mothers, cos that is sooooooooooo true!

By: sting

sting — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 04:27:41 +0000

I still think i'm fall in the number 2 category. As much as i don't like anyone telling me what to do, i still prefer my parents approve my decisions. Being the stubborn goat that i can be, i usually do what i want to do anyway, but i'm not too happy that they are not happy with me. Let me not say they, cos is usually my mother. I can still remember dating the Jamaican weed head (not a stereotype, he used to smoke weed everyday). My mother almost had a stroke, but i dated him anyway until he DUMPED ME, just like she predicted. Sheesh!