Questions answered; finally!

It has been four weeks since I told you I was going to have a giveaway for the first birthday of this blog. Have any of you seen any signs of such a giveaway? No. Sorry about that, I am the worst procrastinator I know and am running terribly late. However, I hope to have it up by Valentine’s day because what better way to show my love for you, right?

Today I’ll answer the questions that were asked all those weeks ago.

Sting‘s questions:

What am I giving away?

There are four sponsors who have donated an item or a service, and then some handmade goodies by me.

How could I ask you guys to ask a question then tell you not to ask an embarrassing question?

I’m a chicken and I fear blogville so I had to ask you guys to be kind now.

Toluwa‘s questions:
Is ur blog name a truthful definition of who you are? a good girl? and wats ur definition of a good girl?

The name of the blog is totally meant to be tongue in cheek. I am a good girl but I’m not perfect. And depending on your definition, I might not really be a good Naija girl since I can’t really cook Naija food that well (yet!). I don’t smoke, I’ve never tried drugs, drink only on occasion but would live quite happily if I never tasted alcohol again, I’m not promiscuous. My bad habits are not any of the listed ‘serious’ ones.

My definition of a good (Naija) girl is someone who is an obedient and respectful daughter (with some spice sha, we have to give our parents a bit of wahala, especially when we think they might not be correct — come on, it happens right?), someone who cares about and loves other people and who has or strives to have a good relationship with God. It follows too that she’s someone who knows the 10 Commandments and tries to live her life according to them and the rest of God’s word.

Danny Bagucci‘s question:
What singular thing have you done in the past that you would most like to have a second chance to change?

Great question. I would like to redo the entire university experience. I actually hated university for the most part, and there are a few reasons why this might be. First off, I stayed in the same city and didn’t go away, and I think it would have been good for me to get a taste of the big world out there.

Second, the program of study I chose was not for me and I was too scared to get out early because I didn’t want to look like a quitter or a failure. I am not someone who gives up just because things are hard but perhaps this time I should have.

I really struggled through it, and experienced true failure for the first time in my life, more than once too, which sucked. It really was a time where I felt unworthy to be in a university setting and very dumb and just not as intelligent as I thought I was. My self esteem took a severe pounding.

Poor grades led to the death of my dream to be a doctor too, and part of me never got over that.

In the end things ended up working out alright but it was not a fun time at all.

Geisha’s question:
What do you see yourself as PRIMARILY, an American or a Nigerian? when it comes to culture, values, societal interaction etc, do you react first as an American? honestly.

When it comes to culture, I think I’m more Canadian, although I’m trying really hard to adopt more of the Nigerian culture like my parents have and embrace it fully.

My value system is not North American; I’m very Nigerian with respect to what I hold dear. I find it is similar to the values of other immigrants so I wonder if that’s where the line should be drawn: North American versus Immigrant to North America (which is not to say that all North Americans have values that differ widely from that of immigrants).

With respect to societal interactions, I am more Canadian for sure. I think the way I behave in social situations, especially that bit about politcal correctness is very North American.

Very thought-provoking question! In the end, I think I’m more North American than Nigerian, but that is changing daily.

ShonaVixen‘s question:
If you were a boy just for a day what would you do???

If I were a boy for a day, it would be all about finding out about male-female interactions. I’d ask a girl out, just to see what the big deal is. The way some guys act you’d think it was the hardest thing in the world to do. I have always believed that guys have it easy: we women go through so much more as a result of our hormones plus childbirth (for those who decide to) and they think it’s hard to ask a girl out? Puhlease!

I’d want to see how this whole “guys are visual creatures” thing works and why the “cute, smart, but not hot” girls get shafted by men time and time again. And why do homely guys think they can or should get the hotties? Men are just infuriating and I’d love to have some insight into them. :)

mssula‘s question:
Why do you think you are so afraid of taking risks?

I’m afraid of failure. You’d think all the failure I experienced during my university career would have prepared me but nope, I still try to avoiding failing, even though I know that if I don’t try, then I don’t have a chance of succeeding with something new. I’ve learned that my procrastination is a way I put off trying and it is not working for me at all. 2009 is going to have me taking some risks though!

Condi’s questions:
Do you date non Nigerians? e.g would you settle with someone that you are compatible with, that is from a different background.

Most of you already know but I don’t date, period. It’s not by choice but rather circumstance I guess. I have managed to get through this much of my life without really having a serious boyfriend (well there was this one oyinbo guy back in the day, but it’s so long ago that he doesn’t really count). So if I change the question slightly to Would I date non-Nigerians?, then the answer is yes. I will happily go on a date with any guy who isn’t a freak and doesn’t give me cause to fear for my life. The honest answer to the second part of your question is I do really want to marry a Nigerian, preferably a Yorubaman, but in the end compatibility and love and all that stuff will trump nationality. So yeah, if two identical-in-every-other-way, perfectly compatible fellows (for me) differed only in nationality, I’d go for the Nigerian one.

dat1orikachickilita‘s questions:
Do you have a favorite book? what about a favorite movie?
My favourite book for over ten years now is Lucy Maud Montgomery’s The Blue Castle. I also enjoyed Cecelia Ahern’s A Place Called Here and Thanks for the Memories. I loved Nicholas Sparks’ The Notebook (the book and the movie).

My favourite movies are Ghost , The Notebook and The Count of Monte Cristo.

You just visited naija, do you think one day you might want to live and work there permanently?
My cousin’s husband asked me this question and I know I could live there and I’d love being close to all my family, but I’d miss a lot of things about Canada, most of all my friends and immediate family. I don’t want to rule it out but to be honest, I don’t see it happening unless I marry someone who wants us to settle there.

Do you have any vices, if so can you tell us at least one?
Ah, my vices. I have a number:

  • candy
  • internet
  • sleep
  • procrastinating
  • Susan Johnson novels

Vera Ezimora‘s question:
Uhm, do I (the future winner of this mysterious contest) get to pick my gift??? I woulda asked for a Range Rover, but since you’re on low budget, I’ll settle for the Nikon D90 camera (about $1200 ONLY). Or you could get me the Blackberry Bold phone (unlocked ooo).

I appreciate your concern for my budget but the answer is NO. You and your expensive tastes gaan!

aloted babe‘s question:
If you had a chance to come back to planet earth would u want to come back as a man or still as a woman..why?

I’d come back as a woman. I love being a woman and have never wanted to be a man. I think women are just more interesting than men and I guess that’s my answer!

And that’s it!

14 thoughts on “Questions answered; finally!

  1. wow… loads of peeps are "forced" into careers they never really wanted and often trudge along instead of just cutting the losses and moving on… good to know everything worked out good in the end….

  2. SO what is the prize give away going to entail cos i most definitely would like to win one. You know we nigerians like free stuff. ofe!

  3. Oh Vera just has a way of cracking me up!

    I'm sending a man your way babe so you can move to NIgeria and i can start bugging you in real life…lol

  4. Great answers!! See, everybody followed your guidelines, there were no naughty questions.

    Here's to 2009 and taking more risks. Personally, I can not imagine a life without trying something new or different, it's the absence of risk that actually scares me. :) Sometimes I really wish I was risk/newness averse and I wouldn't be so afraid to "settle down" and lead a "normal life".

    Always a pleasure to read you!

  5. Don't we have so many things in common?

    Yes, I need to see the Count of Monte Cristo! I just watched a 2minute clip, fell in love with it…and haven't seen it since then.

    Why would you come back as a woman? Isn't the monthly wahala just enough?

  6. hi! Been to your blog several times in the last few days but haven't had the chance to comment till now.

    I even went as far as listening to your voice recording on your other site – You can imagine the shock of finding out that you sound nothing like a Nigerian! lol! Of course from reading your posts, I understand why.

    Nice reading your responses to all those questions. you write simply and nicely!

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