Good day…why not start the day (or afternoon or evening) off right by doing your good deed of the day? Then come back and read what I have to say about men who sulk.
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Am I the only one who has been blessed to talk to men who have a tendency to be sulky or give guilt trips?
Generally speaking, people who do the whole guilt trip thing get on my nerves. They make me angry and practically dare me to do the opposite of what they want. I hate the fact that they try to guilt trip, thinking I will fall for it.
But with guys it’s even more annoying. I hate to be stereotypical, but that’s not usually the behaviour you expect from a man and there he is trying this guilt trip nonsense. What am I talking about?
When you’re getting to know a guy and you make plans to talk the next day, but not specific plans like “A will call B at 6:47pm” and then they call you they are all “You didn’t call me so I thought I would call you. *insert big sigh*”. If you want to call, great, but please don’t make it seem like I sinned by not calling you!
Or, you’re talking and something important comes up that can’t be ignored and you inform the
baby man of this. Instead of saying “Bye, call me when you’re free” they give you a variation of “I guess you don’t have time for me so I’ll talk to you later.” What?? I just explained the situation, can you be gracious and let me go without getting in a “dig”? That latter response will just make me “forget” to call the guy back.
Or what about the guy who makes you practically beg him to find out what is eating him. You feel like the guy in the relationship because you’re constantly asking him what’s wrong (don’t deny that we females have a reputation for not always being forthcoming when we’re mad):
Girl: “How was your day?”
Guy: “Not so great.”
Girl: “Oh no! Kilode?”
Guy: “Nothing, I don’t want to talk about it.”
Girl: “Come on, tell me. Maybe I can help” OR “Ok, well I’m here for you to listen to you or talk if you want to anytime.”
Guy: “Ok. Well how was your day?”
Girl: “Pretty good.”
You start talking about your day and he either is clearly not listening or everything you say is met with a big sigh. You try to get off the phone with him and he tells you that he wants to talk to you. You ask him again what is wrong and he refuses to tell you, but then he also isn’t actually interested in the conversation you’re making. At this point I’ll usually just make an excuse to get off the phone because it’s just too irritating to go through that.
I also find the following questions/requests annoying from guys that I’m just getting to know:
Dream of me/Did you dream of me?
It’s kind of cheesy, one, and I’m not going to admit it to someone I’m just getting to know yet (shey this is fronting?). And if I hardly know the guy, chances are I’m not dreaming about him…yet.
Did you tell your family/friends about me?
Um, if we’re in the “getting to know you stage”, probably not. I don’t want to get their hopes up before I find out if you’re a correct guy or not.
Are there any other guilt trip scenarios or sulky behaviour moves that should be mentioned?
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