However, it seems for some odd reasons everyone is waiting for some 'perfect' person who will show up tomorrow, next month, next year or even five years and may never show-up…and this person will be 'better' than the several other people you have 'met' but you never got to know. Well, this is the internet age and we sometimes want things 'instantly'.

To illustrate with just one example: I have this Naija friend who for over a period of two years couldn't 'find' someone! He was really SEARCHING big time but no lady and someday, he told me was traveling to Naija, got engaged to this lady and got married months afterwards!

Well, my friend is well educated and got his life together but he had to marry someone I know he doesn't know really that well…though they were acquainted with each other in the service year. Though, he preferred a Naija girl he could get to know here but well, this is life! He is not the only person who I know had to resort to this but well, wetin man go do? :( …LOL.

Naija ladies do shakara for the men, the men do shakara for the ladies…on the long run…everyone is gotta find a solution…whatever it is! A Yoruba adage says: Ileke ma ja si ile, ileke ma ja si ode…ibi kan ni ileke a saa ja si! :D

One last thing: Nothing beats a good naija man + a good naija woman! (I fit explain but, gaskiya, I don use enuf space already!)

One love!

Amen! Cheers to a lovely 2009 for us all

@Miss Definitely Maybe

Thanks for the compliment, and thanks for the toast.

@Oya

Thank you my dear, I wish you all the best in '09 too…perhaps you'll be receiving some big news of your own near the end of the year, if not before!

(And yes…one out of the city roadtrip and I think I'm a seasoned pro driver!)

@Afrobabe

I find constant talk of sex from a stranger very off-putting! I think the internet sometimes emboldens people in negative ways — things they'd never say in person, all of a sudden they have no problem saying it. I'm sure they're surprised that you're less willing to discuss sex than they thought you'd be, given the focus of your blog!

@La reine

God has my back! I will have to remind myself of that once or twice; thanks for reminding me!

Happy New Year to you too!

@Seye Kuyinu

You ke? :)

Amen o! May all our dreams come true this year…I have a good feeling about 2009.

@Temite

Thanks…wishing you all the best too!

@nigeriandramaqueen

Hey, it could happen! Since everyone keeps saying he'll come when I'm not expecting it I'm starting to believe there might be some truth to that.

Wishing you all the best in this new year.

@archiwiz

I like your idea too…and I'm open to it :)

Cheers, darling.

@xtie

Thanks for passing on best wishes. And you'll definitely get an invite when the blessed day arrives. You will have to bring your man with you.

@schic

lol I'm watching! If it doesn't happen that way I will be calling you to complain!

@NaijaBabe

You have me curious…I may have to send you and email and get all the juicy details.

Ah, only 21? You have sooo much time to figure all this out.

I fully agree that a good mate is worth waiting for and settling isn't a part of my equation. All the best in 2009!

Ok maybe not the stopping the wedding bit…that, I dont think I can handle.

I do understand when you say some one who has a way with words…interestingly, I met one, a blogger, so I guess not too far off from that fantasy, but its complicated!

wouldnt that be perfect though?

Not to worry dearie, I hope you find that special person soon. I'm only 21 and my family already have a list that I can be match made with, so I guess I feel you to a point. Just take it easy, and remember, whatever the rush may be, that isnt an excuse to settle for less.

2009 will be ur year!- Guess that's what i can say since all my uncles and aunties keep saying that to me! Anywho, i wish you the best babes, it WILL happen and i definetly want an Invite!

Just keep doing you boo…He will come when you least expect him too

Wish you all the best in 2009. May all your dreams come true!