Comments on: Spare the rod if you wish, but disclipline is a must! http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/ lah dee dah Fri, 18 May 2012 15:59:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: alliesobeauty http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-12102 alliesobeauty Wed, 07 Sep 2011 21:40:44 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-12102 Spare the rod spoil the child isn't in the bible just to let you know. Don't use the bible to preach the hitting of children. I guess Imy husband should beat me if I get out of line hmmmm Spare the rod spoil the child isn't in the bible just to let you know. Don't use the bible to preach the hitting of children. I guess Imy husband should beat me if I get out of line hmmmm

]]> By: goodnaijagirl http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4372 goodnaijagirl Wed, 23 Sep 2009 02:29:40 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4372 ►Chi-Chi There's nothing more to say to what you've said. That seems to be the way life is and I don't see that ever changing. We'll probably do the same thing actually. ►Nicky Oh, this is truly sad. I hope the physical scars as well as the emotional scars your friend experienced have faded by now. ►Tigeress I know. And you know how it is; it's not common for someone else in the neighbourhood to speak up. ►YNC I know what you mean! Parents definitely mellow with age, and the things that made them scream at us will not even cause them to get excited when our younger siblings do it. I know what you mean...one must be carefuly when using physical punishment. ►LUsciousRon Preach! I agree with you fully. ►bob-ij lol my friend is like you: although she will now discipline her son, before she used to let her husband do the discipline, and when he would cry she would be the comforter, which is a role that every mother would rather play. Now they are more equal in doling out punishment so the child knows that the parents are of one mind when it comes to discipline. I think that's important. When do you live for the You Kay? ►Enkay You are correct that love and discipline (when used correctly) are very strongly intertwined. ►September Me too! ►Chi-Chi

There's nothing more to say to what you've said. That seems to be the way life is and I don't see that ever changing. We'll probably do the same thing actually.

►Nicky

Oh, this is truly sad. I hope the physical scars as well as the emotional scars your friend experienced have faded by now.

►Tigeress

I know. And you know how it is; it's not common for someone else in the neighbourhood to speak up.

►YNC

I know what you mean! Parents definitely mellow with age, and the things that made them scream at us will not even cause them to get excited when our younger siblings do it.

I know what you mean…one must be carefuly when using physical punishment.

►LUsciousRon

Preach! I agree with you fully.

►bob-ij

lol my friend is like you: although she will now discipline her son, before she used to let her husband do the discipline, and when he would cry she would be the comforter, which is a role that every mother would rather play. Now they are more equal in doling out punishment so the child knows that the parents are of one mind when it comes to discipline. I think that's important.

When do you live for the You Kay?

►Enkay

You are correct that love and discipline (when used correctly) are very strongly intertwined.

►September

Me too!

]]> By: September http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4338 September Thu, 17 Sep 2009 09:38:24 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4338 I always got "a good old knuckle to the head " . There is abuse then there is discipline. I will not abuse my kids, but I will smack them once in a while when needed. I always got "a good old knuckle to the head " . There is abuse then there is discipline. I will not abuse my kids, but I will smack them once in a while when needed.

]]> By: Enkay http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4337 Enkay Thu, 17 Sep 2009 09:15:01 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4337 Yes! Parents who fail to discipline their kids should be punished when they turn out to be miscreants and a social nuisance. My kids will know discipline and Love and I'll make sure they understand that both are intertwined. Yes! Parents who fail to discipline their kids should be punished when they turn out to be miscreants and a social nuisance.

My kids will know discipline and Love and I'll make sure they understand that both are intertwined.

]]> By: bob-ij http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4335 bob-ij Thu, 17 Sep 2009 01:49:52 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4335 lool...I remember! I was a pretty good kid though. So it wasn't intense... but my mum's buddy was a "cane" and it worked brilliantly as far as I'm concerned because all her kids turned out good...! I will brag about my mum flogging me forever and anyone who judges should faint.. Point?? I am a firm believer in discipline. My intended method? I'm not a disciplinarian so whoever the hubby is..he's got some flogging to do....lol x! lool…I remember! I was a pretty good kid though. So it wasn't intense… but my mum's buddy was a "cane" and it worked brilliantly as far as I'm concerned because all her kids turned out good…! I will brag about my mum flogging me forever and anyone who judges should faint.. Point?? I am a firm believer in discipline. My intended method? I'm not a disciplinarian so whoever the hubby is..he's got some flogging to do….lol

x!

]]> By: LusciousRon http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4334 LusciousRon Wed, 16 Sep 2009 18:19:54 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4334 Finding a balance that works is tricky. But I guess every parent hasa duty to find theirs. You have to know the tyrpe of child you are dealing with. Let the punishment fit the wrong doing. But by no means shoild parents use that as an avenue to be abusive towards their kids. Finding a balance that works is tricky. But I guess every parent hasa duty to find theirs. You have to know the tyrpe of child you are dealing with. Let the punishment fit the wrong doing. But by no means shoild parents use that as an avenue to be abusive towards their kids.

]]> By: YNC http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4333 YNC Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:53:59 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4333 Your family reminds me of mine, my sisters and I are so disciplined knowing we all were born at the same period in time...my baby sister is 13yrs younger and so spoilt, my daddy can't even shout at her. What the heck? He says, "No energy to treat her the way he did for us?"...it happens in families. I still don't recommend using a rod to discipline a child, you can yell once a while and give little task/errands but flogging a child could leave nasty scars for life... Your family reminds me of mine, my sisters and I are so disciplined knowing we all were born at the same period in time…my baby sister is 13yrs younger and so spoilt, my daddy can't even shout at her. What the heck? He says, "No energy to treat her the way he did for us?"…it happens in families.

I still don't recommend using a rod to discipline a child, you can yell once a while and give little task/errands but flogging a child could leave nasty scars for life…

]]> By: Tigeress http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4332 Tigeress Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:12:29 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4332 oh my, thats very disturbing!! I hope he doesnt kill that boy one day in the name of punishment. oh my, thats very disturbing!! I hope he doesnt kill that boy one day in the name of punishment.

]]> By: Nicky http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4331 Nicky Wed, 16 Sep 2009 06:49:14 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4331 Good discussion going on here. In secondary school Command Kaduna, I used to have one friend (with his brother) then who will always come back from holiday with marks all over his body. He would tell us then horrible tales of how his dad had inflicted those marks. To me it felt barbaric then just as it still frightens me now that a father could do such. well my dad never beat me (as I can remember), and I must say it took him lots of patience not to do that. As I watch my son grow, I can very well understand the saying of spare the rod and spoil the child. I discipline my 1+ year old son because I want to shape his character to the point where I wouldn’t eventually need the "rod". I want to end with this: that I think the summary quote is “there should be discipline in discipline". Good discussion going on here.

In secondary school Command Kaduna, I used to have one friend (with his brother) then who will always come back from holiday with marks all over his body. He would tell us then horrible tales of how his dad had inflicted those marks. To me it felt barbaric then just as it still frightens me now that a father could do such.

well my dad never beat me (as I can remember), and I must say it took him lots of patience not to do that. As I watch my son grow, I can very well understand the saying of spare the rod and spoil the child.

I discipline my 1+ year old son because I want to shape his character to the point where I wouldn’t eventually need the "rod".

I want to end with this: that I think the summary quote is “there should be discipline in discipline".

]]> By: Chi-Chi http://goodnaijagirl.com/spare-the-rod-if-you-wish-but-disclipline-is-a-must/comment-page-1/#comment-4328 Chi-Chi Tue, 15 Sep 2009 23:02:30 +0000 http://goodnaijagirl.com/?p=1746#comment-4328 As the oldest of 6, I definitely understand what you are going through. My younger brothers get off easily with things that I can only dream about. Talk about a double standard. Things that make me go hmmm.... As the oldest of 6, I definitely understand what you are going through. My younger brothers get off easily with things that I can only dream about. Talk about a double standard. Things that make me go hmmm….

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