Wading backwards through chest-high snow

If you’ve been following along closely, you may recall that I changed the tagline of my blog from Murdering the Yoruba language since 1979 (hehe—I love this tagline so much!) to Ordinary woman pursuing an extraordinary life. It sounds inspirational, right? Based on what you’ve read about me over the years and this new tagline, you’d might expect that in the almost two years that I’ve had this tagline I would have:

  • become more Christ-like
  • conquered obesity
  • become a money-making entrepreneur
  • become less fearful of doing things
  • set up the cozy home of my dreams
  • gotten married
  • had a babytwins (because: I’m no longer 25)
  • conquered my natural hair
  • become a passable cook
  • conquered gossip

I would say that I hate to disappoint you but Continue reading

Maintaining natural hair

Ten months have passed since my last blog post about hair, following my decision to “go natural”. If you’re expecting an inspiring update I may disappoint: Exhibit A shows how I’m wearing my hair these days (maintaining natural hair is no joke!).

jummy_protective hair style

My hair is hidden away so that I’m not tempted to return to my relaxed hair ways. Continue reading

Hair tales: no big chop, no go-to style (yet)


A strand of my hair that perfectly shows the relaxed and unrelaxed parts

It’s been almost six weeks since my last hair-related post and I’ve been dreaming of the day when my hair will return to its former fullness and thickness (like when I was around 10 years old or around age 17). This is the problem: I want to get from point B to A quickly, forgetting the time it took to get from point A to B. Continue reading

Six months since my last relaxer: I think I’m going natural!

from-relaxed-to-naturalI last relaxed my hair six months ago, on November 6, 2014. I hadn’t planned for that to be my last relaxer but as time went on, my frustrations about relaxing my hair flared up, as they always do. Then I discovered the blogs of some Nigerian women rocking natural hair and I got inspired…and developed a serious case of hair envy! Three months post-relaxer, I decided to see how long I could go without relaxing my hair. As I mentioned in my hairstory (hair history) post, I’ve relaxed my hair regularly for the past 18 years. Continue reading

In search of expensive taste


I’m starting to think that having and indulging expensive taste is a gift that I was not born with, which is a shame because I want it. Though I know there isn’t actually a connection, I like to think that having expensive taste and being polished and put together are linked, as in, I’ll automatically seem classier just because I’m luxe-ing it up. I know this is untrue because I’ve bought a designer handbag (Coach o, not a Louis Vuitton or a Birkin) and it hasn’t transformed me into a glamourous femme at all! Continue reading

Understanding Black* hair: a journey


One of my favourite movies is Something New, with Sanaa Lathan and Simon Baker (aka Patrick Jane from The Mentalist)—I could watch the movie every few days and not get sick of it. It’s not a new movie but if you like romantic movies it’s a must see—if you hate it the chances of us being best buddies is probably zero—sorry. The strong theme through the movie is interracial relationships and I swear the character played by Sanaa (“Kenya”) is me, or how I’d be if I was model-gorgeous and Continue reading