If you, like me, have #2016lovegoals, we need a plan to make this year different from the previous ones. I’m not saying this because my dad reminded me of it last weekend—though sometimes I think he can read my mind—I had drafted this post two months ago. Here are five things that I’ve started—or will start—doing to increase my chances of finding love in 2016. I’m even setting reminders on my phone to make sure I do them!
I was recently convicted of the necessity of being careful when it comes to forming emotional relationships with members of the opposite sex. Like you (I will presume), I deeply respect people’s relationships and do not deliberately try to drive a wedge between a couple, but sometimes those of us with the best of intentions can inadvertently cause problems. I haven’t wrecked any homes (thank God!) and to make sure that never happens, I watch my interactions and check my intentions to avoid inappropriate emotional connections with men.
So, what am I really talking about? Continue reading
I believe there are a number of Nigerians, based abroad, who want to marry a fellow Nigerian and are considering going “back home” to find such a person, or are trying to find a way to meet them abroad. Challenges include living in areas of the world where the concentration of Nigerians is low, Continue reading
First off, Happy Birthday to Maggielola, the awesome woman behind Worship and Swag! May God continue to bless her hustle and her life as she shares her message with the world.
My birthday is less than a week away, and there’s nothing like an upcoming birthday to trigger introspection. Around this time for the past few years, I crave alone time to spend thinking about my life. I mostly think about how I’m not where I thought I would be by this age, and to be honest I get frustrated and upset about it. I know that beating myself up mentally won’t change things, so I shut down the pity party as soon as it begins.
The questions I’ve been asking myself are: Continue reading
This past weekend I was wondering if there were any good resources out there for single Christian women in their 30s who would like to marry and have children and are hoping that God’s will aligns with this! Do any readers of this blog fit this profile or know people who do? If there’s interest and such a community doesn’t exist, we should start one to talk about the challenges of waiting, encourage each other, and pray for each other. This group would be specifically targeted toward Christian women in their mid-30s or older who are single and open to talking about their experiences (using a nickname, if desired). I would want it to be a very interactive group where we all feel free to share our feelings. So, who’s interested? Please send an email to jummyATgoodnaijagirlDOTcom or leave a comment below.
When I last talked about compromising versus settling, I mentioned the benefits of having a List. A flexible List used as a guideline rather than a rigid rule is a good thing in my books, especially if you tend to get carried away by your feelings early in the relationship. When a relationship ends, you can usually see those red flags you initially overlooked so clearly! My colleagues pointed out that maybe I should elaborate on my definitions of compromise and settling from what I shared in Part 1. A friend shared her definition with me: you compromise on things and settle for a person—I agree, but I think you can also settle for things. Lady Ngo mentioned in the comments of the last post that to her, compromise requires contributions from all involved, whereas settling is uneven with respect to contributions—it’s possible for someone to think you’re perfect, leaving … Continue reading