My heart is overflowing with thanks to God this month.
- My sister and her husband are the proud parents of a new little one: a girl, a little sister to my one and only nephew! She arrived just over a week ago and we’re all in love. I thank God for bringing my sister through the entire pregnancy—it’s not easy being pregnant when you also have a toddler to take care of—I kept telling her that she’s really good at this gestating thing. I’m fascinated by how different one pregnancy can be from the other and I really want to commend my sister for handling a second pregnancy and its related challenges with grace. I hope I’ll be as mobile as she was—I always imagine myself sleeping the months away while my husband takes care of everything else: cooking, cleaning, working…just kidding (mostly).
- While my sister was in the hospital having her baby, I got to spend time with my nephew and I was thankful for the opportunity. I love the little guy, and when I’m the only one around I feel such a great sense of responsibility for him and I usually get emotional thinking about all the potential and greatness waiting to be unleashed on the world. Children are miracles and it was an honour to see life through my nephew’s eyes. Life is so simple that age: eat, play, and sleep; I found myself wishing I could have that life for a little while!
- Canadian Thanksgiving took place on the first Monday of the month and my family (except for my youngest brother) got together to have a traditional Northern American Thanksgiving meal: mashed potatoes, turkey, stuffing, gravy, and veggies. We took time this year to share what we were thankful for and everyone had something to share because truly, God has been so good to our family.
- The elder of my two younger brothers celebrated a milestone birthday yesterday. I’m thankful for his life and I can’t wait for the testimonies that are coming. I had a great time with the birthday boy—we went out for dinner. Our relationship has been steadily improving as we get older and that’s 100% due to God. Five years ago the kind of evening we had last night would have been unimaginable. It’s not that we now agree on things but we’re much more respectful of each other—I’ve relaxed my hold on the “big sister” label and treat him as an equal. I’m becoming the kind of big sister that I would want to have.
If you’re praying for a fractured relationship, just know that prayer works, with the caveat that it won’t be on your timeline, which is frustrating, but one day you’ll look back on the prayer point and be surprised to see that it’s been handled.
- I’m thankful for the aspects of my work situation that have improved and am cautiously optimistic about the future. What I’ve learned so far is that even when you think you’re “right”, that doesn’t always mean that you’re off the hook: even if you’re not doing anything wrong you may find that there are one or two things that you can do to improve a situation. From past experience I know I’ve sometimes felt like because I was “right”, I didn’t have any responsibility to try and make a situation better; that was the other person’s job. Now I see small things that I can do to improve the situation, and more often than not I do them. I feel better as a result.
- Finally I’m thankful that I launched Good Naija Blogs. It took a while (too.many.years) to get here, not because launching a website is complicated—it can be done in 15-30 minutes—but I allowed mindset issues, doubts, and low self-confidence to trip me up continually, making something that should be simple into a complicated monster. There’s still a lot to do to get it to be what I have envisioned for so long and I’ll make mistakes along the way but part of putting this out there is learning that I don’t have to be perfect, I just have to do my best for each moment and pick up from where I left off the next time. Too much of my life has been on hold while I waited for the time to do everything “perfectly”. This way of life has gotten me nowhere.
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