I started this entry over 24 hours ago, but got distracted along the way.
When things aren’t going so well, it’s always tempting to use that as an excuse not to think about giving thanks but we’re to give thanks in all things. I had a good weekend but as is often the case, a couple of minor incidents can combine to suddenly make me think the weekend wasn’t that great after all. I am hoping this week will be better.
I am thankful for:
- great conversations with friends. I was up until nearly 4am after having an intense emotional discussion with my friends (who happen to be married to each other). We have these conversations two or three times a year and it’s amazing how they happen. They are never planned and we just lose track of time and get so into it. It’s conversations like this that will make us lifelong friends. Sign of a good conversation: waking up with a hoarse voice.
- continued employment. I had my performance evaluation this week and I’m happy with how it went. I’m also excited that starting in November, I will have an extra week of annual vacation. Maybe one day I’ll have so much vacation time that I can contemplate going somewhere other than Nigeria every few years.
- my family’s continued health. It’s something we don’t take for granted.
On another note, I’ve been thinking of one of my bad traits recently, Pride.
Pride will keep your lips closed when they should issue an apology or utter a confession.
Pride will give the silent treatment.
Pride cares about winning more than peace.
Pride will use a past occurrence to fan the flames of discord.
Pride focuses more on “who was wrong?” than “how can we make things right?”
Recognizing pride is a big step toward humility, and I am so thankful for the examples I have in my life of peacemakers. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God.
Edited to add:
I subscribe to Sparkpeople.com and today’s Healthy Reflection is below, and it’s very much related to what has been on my mind lately.
Do you seek revenge when someone has wronged you?
When someone wrongs you, it’s easy to go to that place in your mind and conjure up ways to get back at them. Our lives are in a constant state of change, and yet our hearts hold on to hurtful memories with a tight grip. Remember the girl that was mean to you in high school? She could have evolved into a very pleasant, kind woman, but your mind is fixated on what she did. Truly, the idea of revenge is bittersweet and foolish. Don’t waste your time and energy stewing. Inevitably you will come across someone who is flat out mean and inconsiderate, but the best approach it to simply let it go and move on. Focus on the positive things about yourself or rethink the person’s motivations. Maybe he is the one who is hurt or insecure, trying to deflect his own bad experiences onto someone else. Try your best to forget about it.
I’m not a revenge seeker; I’ve learned that holding on to the terrible feelings only makes mefeel worse, worse than the person I’m angry at feels, even. And having thoughts of revenge only drags on the process unnecessarily. After I cool down, I ask for the the unkind feelings to be removed from my heart and move on. It’s rarely instantaneous but it does work.
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