I’ve been left out when it comes to learning how to front. Some of you may have fronted once or twice, and could teach me a thing or two so I’m asking you to help me out and answer some questions:
First of all, what does fronting mean (to you)?
Is it different from making shakara? If so, what is shakara? Is there other Naija slang for the same thing that I’m missing out on?
Ok, back to what I’ve observed. I don’t ask guys out but when I am talking to a guy, on phone or online, I don’t wait for an hour or two days before replying so I don’t “look desperate”, and I don’t follow those rules about when to call a guy or email him, or reply to a text message, unless I’m being coached by a friend who tells me what to do so I don’t propose marriage to any guy who says hi to me.
(And I’m still very much single…I’m sure it’s just a coincidence.)
My general philosophy about emails is to respond to them as soon as I get them, otherwise I’m liable to forget them (and there are some people right now wondering why I haven’t responded to their emails after making this statement!). So if you send me an email, chances are good I will respond within two minutes of reading it, with few exceptions. With phone calls, if I see a number on my call display that I recognize, I will pick it up. Until very recently, I picked up the phone, whether I recognized the number or not.
I was talking to my hip friend in MD a couple of weeks ago and she was explaining the situation with a guy may or may not be interested in. They were exchanging emails abi messenger messages and she sent me some of their conversation. I was focused on the dialogue, but she also wanted me to note the time between the conversations: she was replying soon after receiving the message while he was waiting a couple of hours or half a day between. He was playing the “game” and she thought she might be appearing too eager by replying soon after receiving his message and planned to tone it down. I could understand her point but if the goal is to get the guy to ask you out (if he proves worthy!) isn’t it ok to encourage him through things like responding quickly? Guys are generally not that observant: if he’s not checking his email or messenger that often, he probably isn’t even thinking of checking the times and dates replies are posted…is he? And if you front too much, will he take it to mean that you’re not interested?
So, in addition to the questions above, I want to know:
Is fronting an essential part of the dating game that I’m missing out on?
Ladies: do you find men who don’t front more appealing, or do they appear desperate?
Men: do you find women who front an exciting challenge, or assume they aren’t interested in you?
My concern is that sometimes, fronting looks a lot like “I’m not interested”. How do you make sure the right message is sent to the other person?