To answer the question, most of my friends are Nigerians.

I have other friends from elsewhere (Asia, Europe, South America and so on).

It's kind of tough being friends with people that

don't value the same thing you do.

I have a friend that i have known since 04

She's African American

Sometimes last year,

she moved to another state (about 6 hrs away) to get married.

I was really mad at her because I felt marriage was not something you just rush into… you're supposed to have family, friends, and loved ones to share the joy with you.

Besides it was too soon and the guy was wayyyyy younger than her.

She did the drive thru wedding

She's currently divorced and she has a son

The marriage did not even last to 3 months.

She's back in town as a single parent. .

She's still my friend

I was there and I always will be there for her.

It's hard when you try to share your views on certain issue with friends and they don't seem to reason with you..

I fear that she's gonna rush into another marriage

which might bring this same result.

*cue cheesy theme music* ;)

i only have 2 Burundian friends….one of them we've known each other since we were babies and the other i met her when i was 15…..

we share the same background: none of us lived more than 5 years in burundi….

As an adult, i know jt is difficult for me to make Burundians friends because as you said they already have their own set of friends but also they think i am way too different:(

anyways, just wanted to share my perspective. I love your blog! i'll be subscribing so i won't miss a post

Haha, my life is the same. Mostly white friends and a lot of Asian (hello Vancouver) and a few others mixed in there).

In Uni, all the black people on campus (and when I say all, I basically mean ALL… it was a small school) basically lived in my roommate and my room. My roommate is Nigerian and some of the black people were too. :)

It's kinda funny though that all the Nigerians in Vancouver and the surrounding areas know each other or know of each other.

PS: Petition to do away with having to enter our email addresses, etc! I've been trying to post this comment for a Hot minute.

my closest friends r a zambian n a south african/italian..the naijas here r too problematic, its unbelievable..ofcourse there are a few good ones, there have to be, but i guess once bitten, twice shy..

wud want to hear the story bout chibuzo!

When I went to college, I made mostly Black (non-Nigerian, let's say) friends, but still had some of my cousins around. And in grad school, all (really most) of my friends were Nigerian/African.

Now that I' m older, everyone has moved on. I still keep in touch with them (MySpace, Facebook and the lot), but most of my friends are still Black. Not because that's what I'm actively seeking , just what happened. I do crave some multiculturality (is that even a word) now and again though.

For me I am a friendly person so I interact with everyone (Americans inclusive) but because of the ignorance some have about Africa, they tend to act somewhat different (be it in guarded speeches or ignorant ramblings). I do however try to educate as many as possible as I interact with them, but that initial disparity makes it a little hard to be real close friends with them. My issue with Americans is that they learn politeness but not respect, so they could be asking the most disrespectful question but in a polite way and think they are in the right. And when it comes to Africa I am a bit sensitive on the issue so that makes respect for Africa the soil on which our friendship can grow. The American close friends I have might not know the long and short of Africa, but they respect Africa and coupled with a personality I can relate with, and trust, there is nothing stopping us from being close friends.

PS: Not every African you meet would be that good friend, some might even scare you to the point you might think of complete disassociation. But persist, because good friends are worth it, even through the rash argument…:-)

ciao

…….H2O