There are two general ideas of what I should do about the situation I’m paranoid (there seems to be consensus on that word) about.
One, I ignore all contact from the guy and hope he stops calling.
Two, I respond to his phone call or maybe email and let him know that I’m flattered by his interest but unfortunately I’ve met someone and am not looking right now.
Each option has its pros and cons. With option one, I’m afraid he’ll become angry with my rudeness, contact a friend he has in my city and have this friend call me to see if I pick up. If I do pick up, then he’ll curse me and try to hunt me down. (You know, because after 20 minutes of talking to me online he’s of course fallen madly in love with me…after all, there are no women like Naija women, right?)
Ok, maybe my life isn’t a movie and I should chill ehn? However, now everything that happens has a more sinister meaning: I received a call from a number in my city that I didn’t recognize yesterday afternoon and since I didn’t recognize the number I didn’t pick it up (new rule). The person didn’t leave a message but around 11pm the same person called 3 times in a row. Could it be him? Maybe he owns cell phones for both my city and the city he claims to live in and he’s outside my window calling me?
(Overactive imagination…don’t mind me)
So because of the above, I’m leaning toward option two: I reply to the email he sent and simply say that I am flattered by his interest but I’m not interested in pursuing a relationship at this time. Or I could say that I’m talking to someone somewhat seriously and want to focus on that. I’ll wish him luck on his search and we both go our merry ways. Although, maybe the phone call I received from him yesterday was the last one and I should just not contact him! So confusing.
And for all I know the local number that keeps dialing me is a friend who got a new cell phone number!
What do you think?
Next up on GNG: all about putting a disclaimer on your blog.
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