I am currently reading the book on the left, Secrets of a Fix-Up Fanatic: How to Meet and Marry Your Match (yes, another library loan) and you have to read it. Ok, maybe you don’t have to but it sure has some good tips on things you should make sure you have in order before you go out looking for your man.
Let’s just say I read it and decided that I have a lot of work to do.
But before you rage at the author, she does say that you don’t have to have everything in order before you put yourself out there, but it sure does make you realize that if you think having a man will make things in your life that you don’t like better, you’re probably wrong. A man will not fix the fact that you’re dissatisfied with the city/country you live in, or your job, your lack of friends or (note to self) your body.
I’ll probably do a full review when I’m finished the book.
In the meantime…tell me either something that you thought having a boyfriend would change in your life (but it didn’t) or something that having a boyfriend actually did change.
I keep thinking that my lifelong dissatisfaction with my weight will change when I meet that man (who is not a chubby chaser or blubber lover o!) who will just overlook/not notice the fat rolls that plague my body. While this is possible, I know myself. And I know that because I hate the excess fat, I will keep mentioning it (yes, sort of like I do on this blog) and even if he says he doesn’t care about it, I’ll basically bully him and force him to confess that he hates the rolls (just like those cops get false confessions out of innocent people) and then I’ll feel even more miserable because now both of us hate my fat. So the obvious solution is get fit! Mold my body into what I want it to be and then I will be confident that I can find someone who likes my body as much as I like it.
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