Comments on: What we can learn from a matchmaker

By: Oya

Oya — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 12:51:59 +0000

lol @ naija chickito!

Hmm, I want to read this book. I agree that only you can make you happy. Happiness is a choice.

By: rethots

rethots — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 06:26:39 +0000

Ooops, what findeth i here "ladies corner"?

By: ms emotions

ms emotions — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 04:29:52 +0000

true, very true indeed,
alot of us think having a man makes us a better person, some people even think that havin a man makes us happy generally, like its a break thru, u having all u crave all of a sudden,
the idea itself is crazy, having a man in ur live makes u happy to an extent and maybe make to look at issues that ordinarily would have angered u diff probably becos u are in luv and happy,
another thing is happin luv not just a man, i think they are two diff thing,

ride on sista, make ur ink neva dry.

By: naija chickito

naija chickito — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 03:42:08 +0000

Lol. I like, no love this blog! You are funny and very honest.
I used to think having a boyfriend will make me focused, as in, it will make me not to look at other men and stuff. Omo, na lie o. lol. But God is helping me. I realize that love (commitment) and lust, are two different things.

By: GoodNaijaGirl

GoodNaijaGirl — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 21:58:59 +0000

@Rayo – You make some good points, almost like you know me or something! I think I would be happy with my body once I felt like it was "average" or "normal" and I didn't have to depend on plus sized stores to find clothing in my size. Being self critical is a large part of who I am, and I enjoy always having something that needs fixing, but at the very least I'd be happier with my body.

If you're happy with what you have, why would you change it? I love who I am as a person, but I'm not impressed with much of my outer shell and it's that I'm hoping to change.

By: Rayo

Rayo — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 09:53:26 +0000

I thought that having a boyfriend would make me happy…as in, completely happy and oblivious to all things bad…and boy was I wrong. I depended on him for happiness during the relationship, but I wasn't happy at all when it came to things outside of the relationship. I was only happy when I was talking to him.

Here's a question for you…do you think you'll be happy with your body even after you finish sculpting it? Because I feel like you first have to be happy with what you already have. Even if you'll lose the weight you're still going to feel insecure about other stuff and it just turns into one vicious cycle.