What’s your genotype?

When I used to think of what I’d want to know about my future spouse before marriage, it was things like if he wanted kids, if we shared similar religious beliefs, if he was an alcoholic or drug addict, if he had a history of infidelity or if he had any sexually transmitted diseases. Many Nigerians would add another thing to the aforementioned incomplete list though: whether their potential spouse has the sickle cell trait; that is, if they are AS. The question “What’s your genotype?” is about as foreign to me as being asked “Baby, what’s your sign?”…well, it used to be. Now I have been asked twice by prospective beaus.

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For those unfamiliar with how sickle cell disease transfer from parent to child works (and those in the know, especially the doctors among us, please correct me if I get any of this wrong), if you are AA, you do not have the sickle cell trait or disease; you are completely healthy (as regards sickle cell disease). If you are AS you have the trait, which means you are a carrier of sickle cell disease. You generally show no signs of the disease but may have or develop some conditions as a result (though generally not sickle cell disease). If you are SS you have sickle cell disease.

So, if you know you’re a carrier, to give yourself the lowest chance of having a child who is also a carrier or a child who has sickle cell disease, it’s ideal to match yourself with someone who is AA as that nearly guarantees you won’t have children who have sickle cell disease. If you and your spouse are AS, there’s about a 25% chance that your offspring could have sickle cell disease, a 25% chance that your child could be AA, and a 50% chance that your offspring could be a carrier like you.

As far as I can tell, these are only odds. It doesn’t mean that if two AS parents have four children, two of them will definitely be AS. You sometimes hear that despite the odds of having a child with a certain condition, some families have multiple children with the same “rare” or “uncommon” condition.

I think the older generation cares more about the answer to the question asked in the title of this entry. One example is the pastor of a friend of mine who told her to make sure she finds out the genotype of a guy she was getting to know before things get more serious. Among the younger set, some don’t know their genotype and aren’t in a rush to find out, and don’t care about the genotype their significant other. I currently don’t know my genotype (Update: now I know my genotype!), but I will be requesting that it be checked in the blood test following my annual physical exam next month, along with my blood type (which I’m embarrassed to confess I don’t know either). I know it won’t affect who I decide to be with, but my potential future partner may feel differently.

I have some questions for you:

  1. Does the genotype of your (future) spouse matter to you?
  2. Have you ever ended a relationship or decided not to enter into a relationship due to genotype?
  3. Have your parents or others tried to influence a budding relationship due to “incompatible” genotypes?

51 thoughts on “What’s your genotype?

  1. hmm. I can't see myself asking a man what his genotype is when:

    a) I don't even know my own

    b) I don't even know my blood type- shameful, eh? lol

    Well, thanks to your post for reminding me that I should know these things.

  2. It would be great to say that it didn't matter but I've watched two aunties bury three kids between them before the kids were 12. The heartache was terrible. I'm AS so I will have to check until science offers up a cure.

  3. Like Fancyface I don't even know my blood type. Asking a man that is something I never even thought about but its def. food for thought.

  4. I would say the younger generation outside Nigeria (can't talk for the rest of Africa) don't care. It's still a very big deal in Nigeria. I've known my blood type since i was in primary school. I think people who are AS are just carriers of the sickle cell trait and contrary to what you wrote they don't show any signs of the disease..

    I guess the big thing people watch out for is not having two people who are carriers have kids, cos even though there is a 25% chance you might have a child with the disease there's no way of knowing if ur first 3 kids won't have the disease. I actually know a couple of families in Nigeria with that story.

    My cousin died of sickle cell in 2007 and her life was very difficult cos she spent a majority of it being seriously sick. I personally don't think it's a risk worth taking, esp since i've watched someone suffer cos of it. On the other hand, i have a friend who has it that only gets sick once or twice a year.

  5. Hah, funny you should mention this topic. Just submitted a proposal to investigate such attitudes relating to sex and sickle cell disease (SCD) with some people at UI. Just give offer some numbers here of how pervasive it is in Nigeria. One in four Nigerians carries the sickle cell trait (SCT), which is the highest of any country. It means that roughly more than 25million Nigerians are carriers. SCD accounts for about 9-16% of under-five mortality in our country. There exists 138 testing centers for HIV around the country, but genetic testing centers for SCT are largely limited to our 22 teaching hospitals. Personally, I think that while we're counseling youth to engage in safe sex in order to prevent HIV, more attention should also be paid to counseling relating to preventing SCD…which admittedly, is more difficult topic to handle. If you think of it, both HIV and SCT are sort of spread the same way – unprotected sex between people who are unaware or unwilling to disclose their HIV or SCT status.

  6. â–ºFancyFace

    No shame at all! I don't know mine but I know kids younger than me who know it so I need to get informed.

    â–ºCaramel Delight

    I'm very sorry for your aunties' loss. Does this mean if you are AS you won't marry another AS?


    Yeah, I can't imagine asking too, but I personally would like to know more for myself.


    I've only talked to a few people about it, literally, all of whom are Nigeria, so that definitely is not a large sample. The girl knew her genotype but didn't care about that of her "potential", and the guys both said they didn't know theirs and wouldn't ask a girl they were interested in what it was.

    In the entry I said If you are AS you have the trait, which means you are a carrier of sickle cell disease. You generally show no signs of the disease but may have or develop some conditions as a result (though generally not sickle cell disease). The conditions that one might develop are not sickle cell disease; you can look up what I'm talking about if you're interested.

    I'm very sorry for your family's loss, and from what I've read the disease can be very serious. I'm such a wimp that when I read stuff like that I literally start crying so I have to stop. When you say it's not a risk worth taking, do you mean you wouldn't marry another carrier if you were a carrier (hypothetically speaking)?


    Wow! I hope you guys get the funding to investigate this…it would be very interesting to see how the data collected relates to what I and some of the commenters have said/will say on the matter. Do keep us posted.

    Also, thanks for the stats provided. I know there's a relation between malaria and SCD (and SCT? Not sure) but I'm not sure that Nigeria is the African country with the largest incidence of malaria…hmmm.

  7. @nneoma Actually you can test to see if you are a carrier at many many many labs outside teaching hospitals. In fact its a big business this owning a lab/test center. I got tested right down my street at a reputable looking lab and I'm glad to say I'm eligible to marry anybody aka AA

    @gng being a sickle cell disease carrier or sufferer is an adaptation which makes people LESS susceptible to malaria which explains why ppl act like its the common cold in nigeria. Too bad its issues are worse than its benefits

  8. OMG i just typed a looong comment on my phone and it didnt post. Fine I'll redo it.

    I was going to say that I totally disagree

    @Nneoma about the testing centers, unless I mistake your meaning. There are many many many labs which specialize in a simple blood/genetic test which tells you what your genotype is, so you know if you are a carrier. It's a big business, the lab owning business and many doctors do it as a side bsiness. In fact this christmas I was home and I went to a reputable looking lab to get tested and found out that I am eligible to marry anyone for love i.e im AA :)

    @GNG i think the relationship between being a sickle cell carrier and malaria is that the disease is actually an adaptation that makes people LESS susceptible to malaria, which explains why people act like malaria is the common cold in Nigeria sometimes. Its too bad the adaptation does more harm than good…

  9. I have to admit that I dont know my genotype, but I know my blood type. One of my good friend is SS and she get sick very often. Its so bad that when she starts dating a guy she likes to know his genotype as early as possible. This topic is very personal.

  10. i've known about genotype since high school, but for some reason i've never gotten around to checking mine.

    GNG, u said AS peeps are carriers of the disease… It's not actually a "disease" per se; its just a condition – there's no causative agent (say, some virus) like u have with malaria or flu. In fact, a sickler (someone with the SS genotype) isn't technically ill; he/she just has red blood cells that are sickle-shaped – their shape prevents them from containing adequate oxygen for the body and somehow (i dont know how) this makes 'em more vulnerable to diseases and stuff…. or something like that. :) Shey u get?

  11. @nigerianwordsmith thanks for the info…just goes to prove why I need to be in naij to investigate this…there is a qualitative angle to my "mini-project" so as to update folks here about what the situation is on ground. I was told teaching hospitals are the only places you could get this…but my sources could be old. i've always wondered where all these people who studied "medical lab science" go after they graduate.

  12. Hmmm, at least I'm no more ashamed to say.. I don't know the my blood group and genotype!I felt I was the only one oh.. whenever I go to the lab, I have other issues and these ones never come in to play.

    I've seen cases where People break cause of crap like that and I wonder why the hell they even started..

    Sha,Great talk, you have no Idea..

    Plaese visit htt://helpnigeria.blogspot.com

    Thank you so very much

  13. Atleast I'm not the only one in the department of 'Not knowing'Not an excuse though, but when you go to the lab,you're just engrossed in what you have come for,other thoughts do not come in.. I honestly wonder why couples break up cause of this issue,makes me wonder why the hell they started in the first place..silly.Good stuff you got going here..I'd be back..

    please visit http://helpnigeria.blogspot.com
    Thank you so very much..

  14. I've been a reader of your blog for a while but never commented, but I definately had to coment on this issue. Genotype has played a huge role in my life in the past two months. My boyfriend and I recently broke up after being together for two years based ONLY on the fact that both of us are AS :( Nothing else was wrong in our relationship, just that fact. He always knew he was AS but I've never know what I am until I got tested recently. When I asked my parents in the past, they told me I was probably AA and I would be fine. Obviously that was not the case. It wasn't an easy decision for us to break up. We did research our options i.e IVF (not supported by the catholic church) adoption (we would like to have biological kids if we are able), not having kids (you know that's not happening in a Nigerian family lol…) and couldn't find an option that worked for us. It's definately important to know your genotype and that of anybody you're dating so that you know how to plan for kids in the future or so you don't end up wasting years only to find out you may not be able to have kids for fear of one turning out with sickle cell, because as somebody said above it's very painful to watch your child die from something that could have been prevented. I'll end here as this is getting too long….

  15. I apologise for the length of this. I could go on for a long time on this topic but i'll try not to. Here are a few thoughts:

    SCD is caused by defective haemoglobin which makes the absorption of oxygen by red blood cells difficult. The cells change shape to take up oxygen but cannot regain their normal shape and become stuck in blood vessels leading to the damage and pain that sufferers experience.

    The frequency of SCD and the SCT is highest where malaria is common (Africa , the Mediterranean, Asia). though it occurs much more rarely in other ethnic groups. The sickle cell gene has survived because it provides resistance against malaria.

    SCT carriers who have just one gene affected are generally fine but can experience problems in conditions of low oxygen e.g. at high altitudes.

    Now to answer your questions: i 've known my genotype since i was little. Perhaps this is down to me knowing a number of people with SCD growing up. I think it's important to find out a partner's genotype (maybe this might be less of a concern if you're in an inter-racial relationship).

    I wouldn't say carriers shouldn't get married. The major risk is in them having biological children, (each child has a 25% risk of having SCD) so i think they ought to know beforehand and should get counselling on the matter. I think with something that has such a huge impact on the child that has SCD and on the rest of the family, the potential parents ought to think about and be prepared for it, not just make such a decision blindly.

  16. We've had sickle cell in my family and lost 2 siblings from the deadly disease. I found out recently that I am a sickle cell carrier AS, so I am very aware of the implications and would definitely not be hooking up with another AS. The implication is grave.

  17. I am AS. I have been made aware of this since I was little. It always used to matter to me but there was someone I was willing to make an exception for. God who knows better, it didn't work out but yes it is important and it is somthing I always ask early on. I don't ask outright, I always work it in the conversation. I have noticed most of my friends who were born here don't check their genotype.

  18. I'm AA [or so ive been told but after reading Ada's comment I'm "hmm-ing" now lol] so i never really ask.

    It's not as talked about here as it is in Naija…I forget about it until someone brings it up. In Naija it is commonplace to it to come up rather early on in any potential mate conversation.

    I Do think it's an important discussion to have.

  19. nigerianwordsmith – I knew there was a connection to malaria but wasn’t sure! Thanks so much for explaining that.

    Sorry, the blog will hold comments for moderation sometimes. As you can see it did post (eventually)!

    Andrea – I’m very sorry for your friend. I’ll say a special prayer this evening for her.

    kay9 – I see what you’re saying for sure, but I feel we really cannot downplay SCD. Whether we call it a disease or condition, whether the person is considered ill or not, the fact remains that the way that SCD manifests in many people can be very serious and can really curtail their life.

    SCD currently has no cure, and not all people dealing with it can afford the medication or therapies available to manage it. I’m hoping that with increased awareness of SCD, if we’re ever in a position to support research in it, we will.

    Nneoma – Oh, I hope you get the funding!

    bob-ij – I can’t argue with you on that.

    Rene – You may have to turn that into a thankful post! I am thankful on your behalf too.

    2cute4u – Thanks for your comment and thanks for sharing the link to We are Jos…I’ve added it to the list of blogs (http://goodnaijagirl.com/nbl).

    Ada – Thanks for delurking and sharing a comment!

    Wow…thanks so much for sharing your story. It sounds like you guys really did a lot of thinking before making the decision to break up. I'm very torn by what you've said, and I'm really not sure what I would do in the same situation (though a part of me thinks I'd take the risk). I admire your bravery.

    Thanks for managing to inject some humour into your comment and I am sorry for the tough decision you had to make.

    Culturesoup – Oh, I appreciate you taking the time to share your comments…go on as long as you wish!

    Thank you so much for the information you provided, especially info on how SCT folks are affected. I just know this information will help someone out there.

    Mamuje – I’m very sorry for your loss, and I definitely respect the decision you have made as a result.

    taynement – I like your approach, and your mention of God. The reason I said earlier in response to another comment that I might take the risk is because God is the one who ultimately controls these things. You may do all you can to avoid passing on the SCT, then discover that a more serious ailment now runs in your family. We have to remember God’s role in all this.

    RepressedOne – If you feel it’s important to know, get checked, even if you never let it affect your future relationships.

  20. Ever since I was in primary school I knew my blood group and genotype. Every child in my family did. And since both my parents are AA, all their kids are AA.

    It wasn't until I got to Secondary school that I fully understood the import of this. There were a few girls that were SS and they were sick all the time. None of them finished from my school 'cos they had to withdraw. I cannot even say if they lived to be twenty or more.

    Even if two people decide to go ahead despite the risks then they should be well prepared to bare the consequences.

    I know that mordern medicine now has a way of deciding/changing the genotype of babies even while still in the womb. I haven't got details of this procedure though.

  21. Very Informative.

    And really its not a disease, its a condition.

    And I think people should get educated properly on this…its alarming how Sickle cell warriors (I try not to use 'sicklers') are treated out there. They cant keep rships for long cos it takes a real man/woman to love and stick with one…they are regarded as 'weak', 'drug addicts' (bcos of the amount of painkillers they need for pain) and 'useless'…and regarded most times with looks of pity

    Its rather sad, because most of these people are stronger than the average AA nd AS because of the physical pain, emotional pain, they have been facing all their lifes.

    Its a condition and if managed right, the individual has a high chance of living long and fulfilling his/her days. Show some love people…the only difference btw SS and AA or AS is the shape of cell….and pain.

    Okay…its getting long. Good Nigerian Girl….Nice post.

    PS: AS do not marry AS….Its good to follow ur heart…but pls on this use ur head too. think of the children who probably wouldnt forgive you for knowing but still went ahead to marry daddy/mummy

  22. This is a serious issue to deal with when considering the choice of your spouse. I have know people who have battled with the Sickle cell. I know those who have died and i also know those who are still living with it.

    Its not about the two lover that don't care to know their genotype that i care about but the child that is born with the sickle cell genotype. It a thing to worry about cos they just bring a child to this world and the child is made to suffer ill health almost 80% the time.

    They crisis they suffer can be very painful.

    Being a regular patient in the hospital, having to receive blood all the time, incurring hospital bills, etc is just part of it.

    I believe it can be avoided and its not a thing to shy away from. If you have to breakup because of your genotype, i believe its not a thing to worry about.

    GNG thumbs up for raising a very important issue.

    I know my genotype and i'll care to know my gf's genotype.

  23. Culturesoup has given us the lowdown on this defective gene. I personally knew a family that went through hell because of this. There are so many reasons as to why people should not let love cloud their senses when it comes to this matter.

  24. i am As

    and its easy to say dnt marry an As when u havent been in a relationship with one

    its also not easy to leave a perfectly good relationship when there arent many guys out there

    there are a lot of options open to as and as that want to get married

  25. Gng, very interesting post. There are two things u've said I'll like to comment on.

    1. ' I know it won’t affect who I decide to be with' I tot, hm she doesn't knw d severity of this issue, its not a child's play. If it can be avoided, by all means pls do! U don't want to 'Ka a ba mo'

    2. ' We have to remember God’s role in all this.' If God has said that is d one, by all means feel free, I knw a couple u had d go ahead 4rm God, he promised them 2 health children, let me say God is 'Awimayeun' even when they tried for more children after d promised two it didn't happen. Another couple ended their relationship only for one of them to end up with a child who had a disease worse than sickle cell. I close, make God the centre!!!

  26. i know my genotype and i can pretty much marry from any genotype.However, i know families members who have buried many kids who had SS genotype.I would not advise anyone to do it.The parents only go through heartache but those kids SUFFER physical pain.Its not fair

  27. Funny enough, this has never come up with me, except for today. I don't even know if I'm AA or AS. I just recently heard that my cousins have sickle cell, other than that I was unaware of any thing running in my family. Needless to say, it has never been something I thought about in regards to dating and eventually marriage. But to answer your question, there are many things that have a possibility of happening to a couple's child, regardless. If I were AS, I would still marry an AS, because those numbers are odds not definites. Plus, if it came down to it, I am as happy adopting as I am to have biological children, as that was part of my family building plan since childhood anyway. I have trust in God. If things happen, I rely on Him to work things out.

  28. Hmmm, this one that prospective beaus have been asking the question…*wink*

    I know a family that is well known in the clinic because of SS children. Sometimes I put myself in the shoes of the children and wonder if they had a choice, would they want to be SS? The answer is obvious. Do they blame their parents for this?

    I also know a couple who are both AS but don't have SS children. I leave it to the individual to make their decisions based on their level of faith…

  29. Enkay – I was thinking of this idea of what can be done in utero if a baby is known to have a particular genotype, but I don't know how advanced the technology is, or how affordable or available it is to the average person. I'll ask my doctor when I see her next month.

    Nutty Jennifer – I appreciate your comment!

    It’s referred to as a disease whenever it’s mentioned, even in medical journals, and like I said earlier, more important than the classification in my opinion is how we can see it eradicated or managed so that those who have it can live longer, healthy lives.

    What you’re saying about the stigma that sickle cell warriors (I like your name for them!) face is really unfortunate.

    I think another entry may be in order to talk about the message in your PS. I understand where you’re coming from, especially since 25% is no joke, and no parent wants to bring a child into the world to suffer.

    NBB – Your comment definitely outlines the seriousness of SCD for anyone who wasn’t aware of it. Thank you for taking the time to share this info.

    Joicee – You’re right that knowledge is definitely power. I guess different people will make different decisions based on the same information.

    BBB – Thanks for sharing your point of view. I think we need to have another discussion on this matter because you and several before you are bringing up some great things to explore.

    Loves God’s Mercy – 1. I appreciate your comment but With all due respect I will disagree with you on this one (lol, of course!). I am aware that SCD is not like having a cold or some other minor or temporary condition. As things are now, and I will probably elaborate on it in another entry, I don’t think I’ll be ending a relationship based solely on our genotype, but there are two people in the relationship and if someone determines that my genotype (once I find out what it is) is not compatible with his own, well I will certainly not beg him to stay with me.

    2. You hit the nail on the head exactly in my opinion. God is the one who will ultimately determine the outcome of each and every pregnancy that occurs.

    pink-satin – Thank you for your comment. I see where you’re coming from. We cannot downplay the seriousness of being SS and no parent would want their child(ren) to suffer.

    ruthie – I agree with you that there are many things that could happen to a child, and odds are not definites. Your willingness to adopt is one that not many (especially in Nigeria) would consider as an option (see Ada’s comment above) but it’s good to remember that there are options if you want to marry someone yet don’t want to risk having a child with SS. Trust in God is key, especially with regard to believing that he won’t give you (or your spouse or child(ren) more than you can handle).

    Rita – Oh, how I wish I had more to say on potential beaus! ;)

    I do love how you slink in with this reply. It’s short but it gets to the point. I struggle with faith regularly so remembering that this comes down to faith is a good lesson for me.

  30. My parents are both AA's so we kids are all AAs too. I have a lot of friends and relatives that have been affected by sickle cell so I can definitely relate. Thanks for sharing…

  31. BBB: better be careful with that line of thought…first of all, there are other men out there. 2ndly the other options you are talking about ,other people have tried them, and except you feel comfy with 'evacuating' babies b4 they are born becos their genotype was shown to be 'ss' then ok….go ahead.

    The truth is another aspect to love is sacrifice. There is a letting go…a saying "no' because of a greater 'Yes' for the future…

    Good Naija Girl: That Name originated from a blogger here, on blogsville…she is a sickle cell warrior and has won the best health blogger award (I hope that's what its called, i'm new here) like 2ce now, cos she is always blogging about the best way to manager sickle cell….very informative.

    You did a good work here….thank you

  32. I agree with nutty jen,AS & AS is a no no no xcpt one wants 2 take d options she listed…IVF or multiple abortions,y live a life of imposed stress and trauma ?isn't there enuf of it in d world?

  33. I am aware of my blood type since primary but never knew my genotype. It was a shocking moment for me, when the guy I was about to date first asked what was mine? That he is AS. I couldn't continue so I had to put the relationship on hold until I get my answer. It is really food for thought. 9ija parents don't joke with this, cos no one wants to see their grand children suffer till death. So therefore, there is no smoke without fire.

  34. I have been aware of this since I was a child as my pediatrician's office always had sickle cell awareness posters in the office and waiting room. My mom explained to me what it was all about.

    I am a carrier of the trait as are my parents. The father of my child is not. I have no intentions of having any more children, but if I did that would be one of the questions that I ask .

  35. Bomi Jolly – Thanks for sharing.

    Nutty Jennifer – I think like many things, experience will be the biggest teacher and we can express our opinion but it'll be hard to change the mind of someone who has already made up the mind on the issue.

    My current view is that SS is the “worst” case scenario and the odds are still in favour of two AS parents having a child that is not SS. That being said, 25% is a VERY HIGH number. I guess it’s a decision we will all have to carefully consider and make if it comes to that.

    I’m going to try and find the blogger…I wonder if it’s Tosyn Bucknor.

    Thanks for commenting!

    qmoney – One thing I agree with is anyone who is AS who decides to have children with another AS must carefully consider the options and possible scenarios they may be faced with.

    Adaoma – Like you, I want to know my genotype so that we both know where we stand.

    Dredfoxx – Ok, you’re a great person to ask: do you think your parents shoudln’t have taken the risk and had you? They are two AS and they had an AS child. Do you have any other siblings? Are they also AS?

  36. hmmmm…this is a very important issue GNG…I've discussed this genotype matter in one of my old posts as well, though not in as much depth as u have…

    Yes, my spouse's genotype was very important to me cos I'm AS…my hubby is AA and I wanted/prayed it to be so…

    Yes, I've ended a relationship b4 bcos we found out we were both AS…it was a mutual decision, and we are still very good friends till date…

    I think love matters, and God can certainly prevent 2 AS people from having SS or even AS children, but my advise to people is, if your faith isn't so strong, don't do it…spare those kids, and yourselves, the pain/agony/anguish/frequent hospital trips,etc…

  37. The genotype of a future spouse definitely matters to me. If you can prevent your child from having sickle cell disease why wouldn't you? I know that the trait runs in my family, but I do not personally know my own genotype (will also get that checked at my physical). But if I am AS, then if I am involved with someone who is potential husband material, I will ask that he gets checked. How is that any different than asking him to get tested for STDs?

    There are ways to significantly decrease the chances that your child will develop the disorder. Penicillin prophalaxis has proven successful in diminishing the chances, but you have to know before you can act.

    I'm so passionate about this because I have family members in Nigeria who unfortunately died from this disease, and lived in excruciatiating pain. At the end of the day to each his own, but I know I will think twice before marrying and having children with someone who is AS if I find that I am also AS.

    Thank you GNG for bringing up this topic. It is not talked about nearly enough! Especially given the staggering figures Nneoma presented above.

  38. so where can one go to get tested in the U.S? My doctor said it is not common to do genetic analysis here unless you are certain or have symptoms , which I do not…..this whole husband thing a couple of people have brought up this genotype thing….and it is not common for those of us here to worry about

    BTW knowing your blood type, does that equals to genotype? People are mixing up the two

    please advice

  39. hey!

    when it comes to genotype and dating, i could probably write an interesting article about how long it takes me to skilfully ask a guy what his genotype is!

    skilfull?im done with that sef!

    i have had crushes on guys with all sorts of genes! tall, short, ss, aa and more

    to be honest, i have never actually thought about what would happen if i were to fall truly madly deeply in love with someone who is ss as well. and sadly, its one of those bridges ill have to cross when i get there

    'disorder'' is a better term. it is no longer seen as a disease since it is a medical condition that is lived with

  40. I have taken so much time to read thru the comments and i must commend everyone for the information. sometimes,we say things like -''break up with the partner if ur not geneticaly good togeda'' . like they say,its easier to advice or dish out orders when it doesnt involve u personally. Should true love be thrown away becos of dis issue?tho very sensitive yet very disheartening.

  41. im so loving this blog. b4 i leave my comments. i want to say that i used to be AS. i lost 3 guys to this curse, sos they cudnt handle it. my God changed my genotype and i am AA now. faith is d best doctor i promise u if only u can believe. d devil has found a way to bring people sadness with this AS thing cos he is a sadist. for the people who asked bout options, i have 2. the first one is called PGD pre genetic diagnosis; wat dis basically means is dt fertilization is thru IVF in vitro. ds procedure is done in lagos by MART(medical art centre). the 2nd option is called amniocenthesis were they check weda d foetus will have any genetic disorders. if its SS u can terminate. for those who cant terminate, IVF is for u. i must however say that this is a test to know that life isnt black and white and marriage is for companion first before pro creation and multiplication. pple bother bout genotype, forgettn dt u may marry AA and stll b barren, have a down syndrome kid, blind kid d list is endless. if u have a gud thng goin, dnt throw it away cos of genotype. how do u want SS people to feel wen ur AS and u already feel helpless. who will marry d SS then. they desrv marriage and love too. food for thought

  42. I’m going through the same thing right now, and is the most difficult dicision I’ve ever made (letting go). You are right is easy to advice when you are not in that person shoes. It took me so long to find the right person and now just ending it like that. I think I’m at a point of trying to convince myself to take the risk believing I would not have a sick child but that’s not the reality. I want to have faith but God brought it out in the open for a reason . I’m still in a confused state. I’m putting everything in God’s hands.

  43. Frm my view, i think genotype incopatibility is worth a divorce,if u’v eva witnessed d painful episode of a sickler u’l neva take d chances of bn a parent of one, & lastly after d emotional torture of d parent,most sickler dies.

  44. Atinga. i think every person shd know their genotype so that u choose a spouse appropraitely .i am AS and i think i would need AA WOMAN so that my chidren dont suffer.

  45. For me,I think is best to leave everything to our creator,nd follow ur heart cus hez d healer of every sickness.faith is d key word here.if u av faith nd believe in his word,it won’t come to you.kiky I support ur idea

  46. I have been aware of this since I was a child as my pediatrician’s office always had sickle cell awareness posters in the office and waiting room. My mom explained to me what it was all about.

    I am a carrier of the trait as are my parents. The father of my child is not. I have no intentions of having any more children, but if I did that would be one of the questions that I ask .

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