I’ve been struggling to write an entry for a few days now. The struggle comes from not knowing which of the following topics to write about first: (more on) blogging, a vulnerable post on searching for love or my reflection on a year since my Nigeria trip. I’m sure I’ll write about all of them sometime, but in the meantime let me write about something completely different: Nigerian women and their stylishness.
I’ve said before that no one would guess that I’m Nigerian because I’m not stylish and I break many rules of stylish women everywhere. Let me list them by category:
H A I R
- I wash my hair every other day. I know most don’t but if I don’t my hair smells. I can’t explain it but this is my cross to bear.
- I go outside with wet hair (or at least damp hair, since I rarely have enough time in the morning to blowdry my hair to full dryness before leaving for work).
- I don’t have a “hair routine” that involves deep conditioning my hair weekly.
- I try to avoid putting oily products in my hair because I hate the feel of greasy hair. I think my hair (and scalp) hate me for this particular faux pas).
- In 30 years, I have braided my hair with attachment/extensions twice, yup, only two times in my life, and I have worn a weave once, for a week and a half. I’ve heard that weaves and braids are good protective styles so it’s a miracle that I have hair on my head!
So help me: I need one or two quick improvements I could make to my hair routine (I have relaxed hair). I’m blessed with quite healthy hair despite the havoc I wreak on it, but it is very dry and needs some moisture (but nothing greasy!). Please recommend some products!
M A K E U P
- I have worn foundation/coverup once in my life â€“ for a wedding I was in. What actually turned me off coverup was a Nigerian girl in university: the collars of her shirts would be brown from all the coverup she was wearing, and the thought of hugging someone and having my foundation come off on their skin or clothing was unacceptable to me. So I always rock my natural, acne-scarred face â€“ no concealers either. I also never wear lipstick.
- I rarely (maybe four times a year) wear eyeliner, so I never learned how to draw a fine line along my lashline. Other beauty products that I wear occasionally (once or twice a month): mascara, eyeshadow.
- I’m not pleased with my eyebrows (I’ll try to update with a picture): they’re naturally faint, and I think nice dark, hairy eyebrows (that you groom, of course) are essential to having a very “put together” face.
My mom and sister wear makeup daily and they wear it in a way that it enhances their natural gorgeousness, so all I need to do to is talk to them and learn how to make a five-minute face. I know there are some tricks I can employ to make my eyebrows look more defined. I may also talk to YNC because I love the way she did her eyes in this entry (lol there is a picture of her eyes in the entry; you just have to find it!).
C L O T H I N G / A C C E S S O R I E S
- When it comes to jewelry, I’m a fan of silver (or platinum â€“ I’m not picky) over yellow gold, but I don’t wear a lot of it: most days I wear small silver hoop earrings that I’ve had for six years and a silver necklace. I try wearing rings but before I get to work I’ve usually removed it/them (maybe my fingers are only meant for wedding rings?). I have two silver watches that I rotate between and I don’t wear bracelets. I plan to experiment with new jewelry this fall, especially longer necklaces.
- I like my purses big and capable of holding everything including the kitchen sink I have a ton of black purses as I mentioned before. You won’t find any Coach, Louis Vuitton or even Guess bags in my closet. The only statement my purses are making is “I carry around a lot of stuff” or “I’m going to have back problems when I get older”.
- Clothing-wise, I don’t tend to follow trends because most of the trendy stuff look better on smaller girls or isn’t readily available in bigger sizes. My goal is to dress in a way that looks put together but also uniquely me, but I haven’t accomplished that yet. I don’t really have a personal style; that’s the problem. This fall, I have been wearing dress pants and a shirt/fine gauge sweater most days, which is fine, but it looks boring. I need to layer more, wear more fitted tops and bottoms and show my shape more. I must banish all loose-fitting clothing from my closet, and I need more skirts in my wardrobe!
- I have big feet that also happen to be wide. I want a great pair of long boots (a fall essential in my opinion!) that’ll also fit my calves. First stop is Zappos.
It can be costly to get that perfect closet full of clothing you just love to wear, but I think it’s something every adult should have, rather than having a collection of disjointed pieces that you have to figure out what to pair them with every morning.
Ok, your turn: what area (hair, makeup or clothing/accessories) are you slacking in? What area(s) could you teach a course in? Where do you find your inspiration for your own personal style?