I haven’t tried any of these places but I’m thinking they might be worth looking into:
I don’t go to a church that’s known for its Nigerian population (Redeemed is the only one I know of around here) but it’s tempting to look into it. The problem is going to a church to meet men is not an idea I’m comfortable with. My choice of church should be based first and foremost on my beliefs and how likely this church is to meet my spiritual needs rather than the number of men between the ages of 28 and 32, taller than 5’5, with a university education that attend the church.
The big city
I live in Canada in what is called “the nation’s capital” but it is not the biggest city in the country. Toronto is one of Canada’s largest cities and it’s not a surprise that there is a strong Nigerian population there. Now, I have a couple of options: I could go to Toronto to attend specific events that are Naija-focused or I could consider moving there so I can really get involved in the “scene”. With the first option, the problem is that driving, TO is about 4.5 hours away so that isn’t a drive that I would want to be making every weekend (and oh yeah, I don’t have my own car). I could take the bus or the train though. With option B, I’d have to leave my job that I love and my family for what? The possibility of being exposed to more Nigerian men? I’m not sure that’s worth it for me (yet…ask me in a couple of years).
Ask the community
I’m scared to try this because we know how word spreads but I could talk to two women who are like aunts to me and tell them that I am actively looking for a Nigerian man to date. One of these women in particular knows every Nigerian in the city so she would probably be able to give me names or contact info, or pass mine along (what I would prefer). The main problem is obvious: at every event I know other “aunts” would come up to me and either give me tips on how to attract a man (and it would include “lose some flesh” for sure!) or tell me about some guy they know who is looking for a wife and he’s only about 15 years older than me, or he has three children, all that good stuff. No thanks.
Ask the parents
I’ve actually tried this one: I told both parents that I wanted them to help me find a good Nigerian man. Sadly neither parent knows anyone. My mom thinks the best chance I have is to go to Nigeria and meet a guy there. I have some reservations about this plan but I’m not ruling it out completely.
Where would you suggest I look?