I read about Shona Vixen‘s blogger-filled weekend yesterday, and I know that AlooFar isn’t keen on meeting fellow bloggers. In my years of blogging (not here, obviously), I have met one blogger: we met about six years ago and we remain friends today. I met one woman in the last year through this blog, but she herself is not a blogger. Although I was very excited to meet her, I was also terrified that in person she’d look down at me (hehe, I didn’t know she was so cute and petite sha) and just be disappointed that GNG didn’t look a certain way (i.e. like a typical Nigerian woman who oozes style and elegance) or wasn’t cool (though the blog itself should have prepared her for that!).
One thing I can be proud of is that my character is the same in person. I hate lies and subterfuge, and don’t see the fact that I am online as an opportunity to create a sexier, skinnier, smarter version of myself: I just am. I won’t write or act like I’m beating men off me with a stick when I’m not. I won’t pretend that I don’t get jealous or feel blue or get angry. I can’t drum up any adventures to make my life sound more exciting than it is(n’t), nor do I make it sound worse. In person I do use self deprecation as a humour tool, so that’s why you’ll get entries like this every now and then. I am your typical lazy, almost-30-year-old who knows she’s really blessed but tends to forget it often, especially when yet another single friend or acquaintance announces her engagement.
I sometimes wonder what impression this blog gives of me . I think when you have a blog that you update regularly, the danger can be that readers come to feel that they know pretty much everything about you. And don’t get me wrong: you can learn a lot about a blogger from their blog, but only to a point. Despite all efforts to be authentic, very few people are capable of showing every facet of their character through their writings on their blog. Yes you can get a good idea of someone’s character and values from their blog, but don’t be surprised when they do something that you consider “out of character”: it might actually just be a part of their character that their blog has not yet revealed.
All of this to say that I feel different about meeting people now than I used to for some reason. Before, if I discovered a blogger or reader in my city I wanted to meet them sooner rather than later, and would imagine us being friends based on very little info (the reader I met last year is an exception though: we got to know each other via the phone a bit, and I thought she was cool and had to meet her). I used to imagine taking part in huge blogger meetups and reunions. Now I find I’m content to just e-meet bloggers and not go to that next level unless I see the possibility of a real offline friendship developing.
Maybe I’m becoming an introvert.