Have you ever selected one word to focus on for a year? This word is supposed to represent what you want in your life and be the filter through which you run any decisions you make. I initially dismissed the idea because I thought it would be hard to pick just one word that could apply to more than one area of my life, but the word that keeps coming to me is BRAVE.
Brave people take risks, brave people believe that things will work out in the end, brave people trust themselves.
I’m pretty much the opposite of this: I’ve allowed fear to hold me back in many areas of my life. I’ll tell myself to dream big then once I dare to, I tell myself that I should be more realistic because that dream can’t actually come true. When people tel me that love is on the way I respond positively but I have doubts (and I’ve been called out on the tone of my response). I’ve been resistant to doing things I’ve never done before to see results I’ve never seen. I keep reading about people who are doing big things, despite not having everything in place, and I want to join them. I’m still young (it’s all relative, right?) and I have the freedom to move around since I don’t have children or a husband yet: it will never be easier than it is now for me to decide to rent out my house and live or work elsewhere for a period of time, or go to New York City or to a tropical destination for a week, things I’ve never done. (Money is a factor, but it’s fear holding me back because I don’t have a problem living frugally to save money for something I want.)
BRAVE actions for 2014
I will provide monthly updates on everything below. If you don’t see an update, please call me out on it!
- document my value as an employee and communicate it clearly during my performance appraisal Deadline: February 28, 2014
- stop getting so nervous when speaking during meetings—it shows in my voice and after 8+ years with the same employer I should be able to speak confidently—my boss always has to remind me to breathe! Deadline: June 30, 2014
- set better boundaries with respect to my workload, and with social interactions with colleagues Deadline: February 15, 2014
- let fading friendships go or prioritize them by bringing it up with the friend—stop feeling bad about the state of a friendship because it takes two to make it work (or not) Deadline: June 30, 2014
- say no to activities or tasks that I really don’t want to do Deadline: Ongoing
- expand my friendships to include at least two people whose lives are more similar to mine Deadline: June 30, 2014
- be truly open to interest from a Christian man, as long as he doesn’t raise any alarm bells Deadline: Ongoing
- tell six family members and friends that I’m looking for love Deadline: February 14, 2014 *wink*
- go out to one social event, preferably one that strangers will also attend, monthly Deadline: Ongoing
- go out for dinner alone every other month Deadline: Ongoing
- travel internationally at least once more alone (even though I know I felt lonely the last time); it could be my last opportunity for a solo trip for a while Deadline: December 31, 2014
- admit that even though I want to learn how to paint, it would be more efficient to hire someone to paint (parts of?) my house—and do it! Deadline: March 31, 2014
- hold a live event in Lagos for the 2014 Nigerian Blog Awards Deadline: December 31, 2014
- contact two potential mentors for entrepreneurial insight Deadline: March 31, 2014
- launch a new website Deadline: March 31, 2014
Have you or will you choose a word for 2014? What is one thing you hope to accomplish this year?
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